DAY 8: Father, help us to discern and deal with those things that hinder and hurt our relationship. In Jesus name, Amen. (Psalm 139:23-24). Investigate my life, O God, find out everything about me; Cross-examine and test me, get a clear picture of what I’m about; See for yourself whether I’ve done anything wrong—then guide me on the road to eternal life.(Message) FROM ANGER TO INTIMACY If were not careful, if youve been married for some years now, what then seemed respectful, can now become common. Its a good thing to be careful of how we as married couples justify our behavior: When the basic need for Respect has been abused or neglected, this can stir up some powerful emotional reactions within us. The bible tells us that this kind of anger can become a deep-seated root of bitterness (Hebrews 12:15). And nursing bitterness and holding a grudge, will only end up destroying yourself as well as your marriage. This a good time to take and have that conversation . . . or mention, in the same spirit as you would like to be received in, how somethings might make you feel. To further give no place to the devil, use I statements to keep the focus on your own feelings and reactions rather than your husbands/wifes actions: Example, “I was terribly hurt when you said _____, but I’m willing to move beyond that if you’ll work with me.” Don’t lose heart if his/her first response isnt exactly what you were hoping for. Youll come face-to-face with the pain, before the person! His/her reaction doesnt reflect whether or not you communicated appropriately. It’s simply an indication of where hes/she’s at emotionally. Give validation (let them express, as youre seeking to get the weight off of your chest too!), as you allow one another to own your own individual mistakes. Always try to clarify what you meant and invite him/her to express his/her own feelings in greater depth. If all else fails, I often, well most of time, start with a common ground, and then build from there! There are no winners and losers in marriage, but there is FORGIVENESS! God Bless your communication. Staying on the Wall in Prayer for you!
Posted on: Tue, 12 Aug 2014 22:05:21 +0000
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