DETACHED FOCUS!!!! Having the ability to decide at each moment what merits your attention is one of the secrets of success. It’s been proven time and again by sports stars and high achievers, “If there is something you want, fearlessly focusing on it will give you a much higher probability of achieving it.” But what happens if we focus too much on our destination, when the object of our focus becomes our waking thoughts, our daily deliberations and our midnight meditations? Can this intense concentration bring us the results that we desire? The answer unfortunately is no, those people who set goals and struggle daily for their goals to manifest generally don’t achieve them, holding on to the goal too tightly will not assist in its acquisition! Think about someone who practices archery: he/she has thought through the basics of shooting arrows, the stance, the technique, the pulling back but most importantly the letting go. They say the letting go is the most important bit. The energy, the focus and the goal are there but it is in letting go that the arrow reaches its target. Deepak Chopra explained the concept of letting go by using the metaphor of a gardener. The gardener plants the seed and gives the seed all it needs to survive but he doesn’t go and dig it up every day to see if it has grown. The gardener is clear about the outcome he desires, he does the work required but then he lets go or detaches himself from the outcome. So, the problem is not focusing too much but focusing on the wrong thing! Having said that….practice on NOT focusing on the goal. The sports star should focus on the daily actions and not on the final outcome, the business person should focus on the individual tasks and not the ultimate objective. When you concentrate on the goal you are holding onto it and holding on does not work with the flow of nature and life. If you focus too intently on the goal you are not truly present, and if you are not present you cannot be open to the possibilities that life may bring. For example, if a sales person focuses on finalizing the sale he/she is not paying attention to the customer and therefore will not serve the customer according to their needs. Therefore we must remember to work with a sense of purpose and awareness of presence, if we work in this manner we will be benefiting from the increase in productivity and efficiency that being focused can bring us, but more importantly we will be moving closer to our desired outcomes in a relaxed, detached and more effective manner. The secret is to focus intently, to focus on the path and not on the destination. To do all that is required to make you the best at what you do but not to concentrate on the result. If we do our jobs with passion and the best of our abilities then the consequences will be positive, and if we intently focus on the perfecting or doing the best possible job, our goals, our dreams and our desires should not delay in following close behind. By practicing the art of detached focus, ironic though it may sound we can achieve more by letting go. Dr. Stella Fernandez
Posted on: Thu, 24 Oct 2013 03:52:46 +0000