Dating for Young Women in the Modern Age My mother met my father when she was younger than I am now. She was married by the age I will be when I graduate from college and had me two years after that. She claims, that it was typical for couples to get married when her and my father did. I cannot help but notice the dramatic change that has undergone the modern dating era. We are divided into two categories, the very few who marry right out of high school; and then the rest of us who navigate the perilous dating world we find ourselves in. As I do not have any experience in the first category, I can talk freely about the second. One of my really good friends decided to go on a tinder date. As to be expected, it ended in disaster. This boy she went out with spent the entire meal talking about how he thought it was absolutely absurd of her to be going to college and bashing her chosen career path of i-banking. It even progressed to attacks on her hair, clothing, and general taste in movies. Is this what we have to deal with? I, not even a romantic, can’t help but be slightly nostalgic for the time when my mother met my father. He opened the door for her, paid for the meal, and spent the whole meal with his hands shaking because of nerves and complimenting her whenever possible. Must we deal with jerks on tinder now? Also, we have the perpetual phrase loved by all boys now, “I’m just not looking for anything serious”. Well kind sir, I was not asking you to propose, but the simple dignity of opening the door for me and trying to get to know me is all of the seriousness I expect. As girls, we are taught to never EVER trust a boy you do not know well. We must conduct thorough tests and screenings of him to make sure that he will not take advantage of us, before even considering dating him for a long time. We spend most of our time in professional environments. We spend our day in a work environment where we typically are strictly forbidden from engaging in employee relations. But these are the best boys we have come across. Educated, responsible, and neatly groomed. But they are all off limits. Then we have to go back to our secondary resources of rejected boys from our friends, online, parties, or hoping forever that we will bump into him on the street one day. That it will be the romantic moment when our eyes meet and the birds sing, and it is the beginning of our happily ever after. In my experience, bumping into people on the street typically leads to angry stares and not the sound of birds signing. Maybe I am doing it wrong though. Finally, we have the worst of the worst. The best friends. The boys you let close enough into your life to share all of your secrets to. You can never date these either. Mainly because you will lose your number one resources. Guys as friends are my number one source of making sure I am okay before going out on a date. I make sure they text me during the whole date to make sure I am alive. I value their inputs on the things guys do and what they actually mean. Dating your number one resource, means you no longer have your number one resource. So, what do we do ladies? I choose to believe that Nick Jonas will one day realize he has been in love with me all along and we will have our happily ever after. But, I also concede that I must believe in something else. And that is that, I really don’t need a man to be happy. Botched tinder dates, non-serious boys, and best friends are in the end nothing but fun, life experiences. So, even though my own mother beat me on the dating game, it’s okay. If I find a boy or if I don’t, I will still have my friends. Friends that will eat ice cream with you if your heart is broken, laugh at horrible dates with you, and make sure you come back home safe and sound after very new experience. And that is all the happily ever after I will ever need. AR student blogger, Marissa Muller
Posted on: Fri, 25 Jul 2014 22:23:55 +0000
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