Dealing with the Difficult People (Practical Tips) Like most of us, you may also have had a chance to meet someone difficult to deal with or a negative person. Yes! dealing with difficult people is a challenge. These people have negative feelings, oppose your ideas or simply dont like you. However, you cannot avoid them all. You can avoid one or two people, but not every such person you meet. You have to accept them as part of your life; personal or professional. I want to share some ways to deal with difficult people. Below are some tips to handle difficult people. Tips to deal with difficult people: • FOCUS ON YOUR BEHAVIOUR In this regard, there is one important fact to be learned before anything else. It is you, who have to control your behaviour with some people. • DO NOT HOLD A GRUDGE If you hold grudges against someone who has been difficult to you, it is only you who is being hurt in the whole process. Reacting to any kind of negativity disturbs your inner peace – creating pain in you. Often people who initiate negativity are disturbed or frustrated themselves and they express it externally towards anybody who is in front of them. So why take it personally! Try to forgive the person and foret the incident. • AVOID CONFLICTS OF EGOS If you happen to confront with a difficult person, do not let your conflict turn into battle of egos. Though reacting impulsively can be natural reaction, it is not right. You cannot resolve problems in this manner; rather relax and think what can be the right solution. Avoid ego when dealing with difficult people. • ALLOW THINGS TO COOL DOWN Do not answer negativity with negativity as anger feeds anger and things become uncontrollable. Wait it out and let the things cool down. • IGNORE PROVOCATIONS Difficult people often like conflicts and like to provoke others to confront them. If someone sends any negative message to you, just ignore it and avoid sending any response; good or bad. It will stop the cycle of negative snowballing and that person’s negative intentions. • STOP TALKING ABOUT YOUR CONFLICTS It is often seen that people just love talking about their conflicts and problems. However, they do not understand that every time they repeat their story to someone who will listen, they are going through the situation again which they hate. More we talk about a person you dislike, more you notice things about him or her. Thus, stop talking about your problems with others. (There are just a few ways that can help in dealing with difficult people. As the time passes and maturity grows in you, you will have a kind of calmness in your inner being and a feeling to shrug off negativity initiated by others.)
Posted on: Sat, 09 Aug 2014 18:12:24 +0000