Dear Dad. How old is too old for kids to still sleep with their parents? My stepson will be 11 soon and still sleeps in bed with his mom during the week. So when he spends weekends at our house he wants to sleep in our bed with us. Our 2-year old sleeps in his own bed most nights. He has his own room at our house. We have even let him sleep on the couch. I work nights so Im not home all night but when I get home at 6:30 am Im ready for bed and have to wait for him to get up so I can have my bed back. A queen size is not big enough for the whole family. My husband thinks that all of this is normal and perfectly okay. But I feel like at his age he should be sleeping in his own bed. Dear Ready for Bed-- I think every parent has the right to decide if co sleeping is right for them and neither side is right or wrong. We allowed our oldest to sleep in bed with us on occasion until she was around two. We then had a nightmare YEAR trying to get her to adjust to sleeping in her toddler bed that involved crying, screaming, melt downs---oh, and our daughter got upset too. :D When we had the twins, I put my foot down against any co sleeping. Since I was in charge of the night shift after I got home from work, my wife not only agreed, but THANKED me for standing so firm on the subject. New parents are sleep deprived enough to have to also contend with kicks to the ribs, slaps in the face, and sweaty smelly close corners---and also any effect that having the child sleep in the bed brings with it. paha! ;) However, you are talking about an almost 11 year old, and your 2 year old is already mostly sleeping independently. I dont know, I see a bit of a red flag there. 11 is a little on the older side to be co-sleeping with parents. I would suggest you have a talk with your husband about having a discussion with your stepsons mom. When is this going to end? Do they want an 18 year old at the foot of the bed one day? If his mom refuses to see it as a problem, I think you should put your foot down and say no more. He is too old to be sleeping in YOUR bed. After a long night of work, the last thing you need is to wait for your almost middle school aged step son to wake up. Good luck to you!
Posted on: Fri, 07 Nov 2014 00:28:50 +0000