Dear Nana, In the Movie Why did I get Married by Tyler Paper, there is a scene where a psychologist played by Janet Jackson shares advice with her girlfriends. In dealing with their relationships she asks them to take a Pen and Paper and write down all the Good of the realtionship on oneside and all the bad on another with the assumption that which ever side has the most content is a sign of the nature of their relationship and what they shoudl do: More Good = Stay and be honest with yourself about the bad you do More Bad = Leave and be honest with yourself about the bad down TO you This concept is interesting. How many of us have felt wronged by people in our lives we still hang around? How many of us have felt taken advantage or stressed by a friendship, relationship or aquaitance and yet STILL remained wthin the confines of that state? Next time you feel LIFE, FRIENDS, FAMILY or even You YOURSELF: dont be a Victim. Take that time to make that list. Show yourself why you stay with this people or convince yourself why you shoudl leave: But make a decision. Life is short BUT we are all going to be here a LONG time. One day is 24 hours, 1440 mintues or 86400 seconds. 1 second when waiting for something can seem like Eternity. Dont wait to Trust yourelf to make a Decision. Wait to Trust yourself that the Decision made was worth it, because it will be. Leave or Stay, life is a Cycle and we ALWAYS come back. We all just want to come back when we want at our own Pace. You hold back because you know you are an extremist. You feel the Depth and Intensity of your Emotions would cause you to denounce the world for lack of receiving in Return the love and care you feel you put in. So you wait, you wait for a Sign of whether to have faith in people or move in. No more Waiting. Trust the People you love, even when they cause you stress. Trust that when they leave, it is not Permamnent. We men Fear emotion, for once we start feeling it, we dont know how to Tur it off. God gave that Gift to Woman. And to us he gave Silence: to appease the beast of Burden within. But no more silence and no more waiting. Start the process, start the journey, start the MOVEMENT you know you have been working and planning and sacrificing for. Have confidence in all: Like you ALWAYS have. Dont stop now just because its Cold outside. This letter I write to you may be harsh but it is honest. Be strong and carry on. Like your mother, father, brother AND sister reminded you: GOD only gives us what we can handle, so dont underestimate the circumstances or people in your life. Because even the bad is a lesson learned and even the bad reminds you why you Love the World. Sincerely, Anthony Claudette Moonsong Davis
Posted on: Sun, 01 Dec 2013 15:16:58 +0000
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