Dear Wives, If you dont know me, Im the unmarried friend who plays basketball with your husband every week. See, every now and then, one of our regulars doesnt show up. And we get really disappointed. Id hate to put the blame on anyone, but just in case any of you dislike him playing sports with me, I thought Id write this. Heres 5 reasons why letting him play basketball with me, is actually a good thing for you: 1. There are no other women around I know how basketball looks like in the movies. Its glamorous, played in air conditioned arenas, and there are hot cheerleaders everywhere. But in our tropical climate, things are very different. Its outdoor and hot. Things gets sweaty, smelly, and uncomfortable very fast. Think any female would want to come within a 1km radius of 15 out-of-shape, (sometimes topless), sweaty guys? Right. Seriously, to test my theory out: the last time we were playing in the sweltering heat, I even switched on Tinder* and set a 1km radius search. No new people around your area. 2. It makes him a better man Real men play sports. Remember how you felt about him when you first fell for him? I bet you didnt fall for the fat guy slouching on the couch, watching Astro on Saturday mornings. No, you fell for the dashing young man who was so passionate about his basketball that you couldnt help feel a tinge of excitement. You loved how strong he looked when running. And how you felt so safe when he hugged you. Hell never get that six-pack or those toned triceps back. But regular games with his buddies is at least going to motivate him to exercise. Itll reduce his stress and help him be happier too. Youll thank me when hes still healthy enough to take care of you in your fifties. 3. It makes him miss you more Contrary to what you may believe, spending every moment together is the quickest way to make a relationship fizzle out. Couples need space. So let him go. Its just for a few hours, a few times a week. A few hours where hell rub bodies with sweaty guys and listen to shallow male jokes. By the end of it, hell be desperate to come home to his lovely wife and kids! And if you lovingly surprise him by packing ice-cold drinks for him and his friends, I promise you hell be on his best-husband behavior for weeks. 4. It makes him unbelievably happy Once upon a time, your husband wasnt just your husband. He was the best basketball player in his class. Selected to represent the school, and even called for State try-outs. A man with sporting potential. And then reality kicked in. Maybe he just wasnt tall enough, or fast enough, or no one gave him the opportunity. Maybe it was because there was just no environment for sports to flourish in our country. Whatever it is, someone else got picked for the national team. So he went down the normal path. You know, got a proper job, settled down, and started a family. Pickup basketball with his buddies transports him back to those days when he was a star. As he steps out on court, the surroundings fade. His old instincts kick in, as he feels the youth in his veins. For those precious few moments, hes no longer a slow weekend warrior with a bad knee. No, hes Michael Jordan again. Hitting the game-winning shot like a champion. He lives for those moments. And theyre not too many of them left. 5. Its not a competition Theres no need to feel insecure, or that you are anything less than his number one. The moment he married you, he committed his mind, body and soul to you forever. A little pickup basketball is never going to change that. All he wants is to compete for a few hours against his buddies. All men need competition, but please let that just be limited to his basketball games. With you - its NOT a competition. It never was. Its not you against his buddies. Not you against me. And definitely not you against basketball. Even if it were, you would always win. After all, youre his real MVP. Sincerely, -The 30-year old guy who hopes his basketball buddies will show up every week- *OK, I was lying about the Tinder story, but if he doesnt come more often, I promise to teach him all about it
Posted on: Fri, 29 Aug 2014 07:44:21 +0000
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