Dear Zane, I am writing you b/c I recently broke off a 5 year relationship, with my ex fiancé & father of my children. Found out he was cheating, while we were in the process of planning a destination wedding. He started dating a cousin of one of his friends. I asked him several times about this girl, b/c I was seeing the way she was acting & the things she was posting on FB!! He kept saying she was only a social networking friend, thats all. My female intuition told me differently. My household was completely silent, no communication of any kind. The devil was working overtime. He neglected me in every way..physically & emotionally. I eventually made him leave my household. A week after, that same homewrecker confirmed to me via FB inbox that she has been involved with my ex. She also told me things that only he knew, so he was pillow talking smh. Never felt so betrayed in my life. He proposed to me, so why would he start being so unfaithful? I pray that I can put my love & trust into somebody who wont mistreat me & my kids. MY RESPONSE: It is unfortunate that your ex-fiance played with your emotions in such a way. After five years, and a planned wedding, you deserved better. But please do not assume that all men are like him. You were blindsided but, at the same time, the clues were there for a while. For whatever the reason, he decided to sleep with another woman and make her believe that she was the one. The funny thing is that if you had not put his ass out, he would still be there; yet she probably believes that she won some kind of prize. He is with her now because you wont let him be there. She is not the homewrecker, though. He wrecked your household. She did not make him do anything that he did not have the desire to do. You need to forgive him, coparent, and expect him to attempt to crawl back several times with his tail tucked between his legs when the two of them have their own reality check. He had a good, loving, faithful woman and mother of his kids, and future wife, and now he has a woman who was willing to sleep with him while he was engaged and living with the mother of his kids. They deserve one another. Good luck but no one can analyze poor decisions.
Posted on: Sat, 26 Jul 2014 15:12:32 +0000
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