Divorce Care daily e-mail Practical Tips to Move Toward Reconciliation Day 328 Warren Kniskern recommends using another person as a mediator, or a neutral third party, to enable you and your former spouse to talk through issues without becoming hostile or hurtful. He recommends you choose a wise, capable-to-counsel, experienced person who can be objective and can help both spouses resolve the issues. Lou Priolo offers another practical suggestion for moving toward reconciliation. He says, “When there is regular contact between you and your former spouse, you’re going to have to talk with each other. You’re going to have to solve conflicts together. The continued exposure can produce additional stress, but it can also be an opportunity for healing.” Both of the above suggestions involve interacting with your former spouse. Use wisdom in deciding if this is the best time for the type of interaction described above. If you aren’t ready to speak with your spouse, write non-mailed letters to your spouse to help you see what’s in your heart and to draw you closer to the point of reconciliation. When interacting with your spouse, clear communication is important. Take time to sort out your thoughts and emotions, your beliefs and convictions. Learn to express these to other people in an understandable manner. “Listen to the words of the wise; apply your heart to my instruction. For it is good to keep these sayings deep within yourself, always ready on your lips. I am teaching you today—yes, you—so you will trust in the LORD” (Proverbs 22:17-19 NLT). Wise Counselor, You know how difficult it is for my former spouse and I to communicate. But I know You can reach the hardest of hearts. Please soften both our hearts so that we can break down some of the barriers between us and start talking and listening to each other. Amen.
Posted on: Fri, 04 Oct 2013 10:46:49 +0000
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