Do not give up your hope in yourself, your dreams for a good life, and a successful career, beautiful family by holding onto the loser Narc that you allowed into a category in your life that he was never meant to be in. We have all made an”unsafe” relationships choice at some point or another for a variety of different reasons. But a poor choice doesn’t always mean it is a life style that we chose. But sometimes it can be because we have not faced our own issues, but do not be deceived into believing that the N’s issues are yours. Trust me, we have a list all of our own. We fell for the BS sweet talk that they dish out in order to get close to us. It is time to stop trying to deal with our own unresolved issues by trying to “hope” and “fix” the N. This is all too familiar to parents whose “good” child “hooks up” with the town outcast. All the while as a parent we do not understand, yet the teenager is trying to bring together polar opposites together and when the family begins to own its own “issues” the teenager will have seek out the relationship with the “issues” that they are living. It is all about healing the damaged emotions, sure, it feels like it is all as a result of the N, but there is a reason that we did not see right through the BS, why we bought into it almost immediately, why we did not run for the hills as soon as he opened his mouth. There was something missing, there may still be something missing, self esteem, braces as a kid and got teased? Over weight as a teen and lost it all after high school or college and the N commented on how pretty you are? Or missing something deeper, a father? Where was your father? Did he abandon you and your mother? Did your father have an extra marital affair? Are you attacked to married men because of the damage the “other woman” caused your family or your mom? Did your mother have affairs; did she break up the family? Only you know what your deep down inside really needs, and what the hurt is or was, mediate on it, ask for it to be revealed to you, lets break the cycle, let’s do it for our children……………………………
Posted on: Wed, 25 Sep 2013 01:30:01 +0000
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