Dont tolerate disrespectful speech. The young child who is rude and disrespectful will grow into an even ruder teen who may actually swear and curse his parents. These behaviors dont arrive suddenly with puberty. They develop many years earlier from unchecked arrogance. The following five-step program will help correct speech errors and foster respect and humility. Start with the first step and only proceed to the next one if necessary: · TEACH the child what you mean by respectful speech. Use examples and role-playing. · REMIND the child to use respectful speech and model it for him. · PROMPT the child during occurrences of disrespectful speech with: tone of voice, or speaking quietly please, or give the child the first few words: Mummy, is it possible you forgot…? · BLOCK disrespectful speech with: Would you like to try that again more respectfully please? As soon as the child corrects himself, the parent offers generous praise. · DISCIPLINE if necessary. When the child speaks disrespectfully, the parent might say something like, Weve been working on speaking respectfully for quite a while now and I think you know what youre supposed to do. From now on, if you raise your voice, use impolite words or demand instead of ask, you will have to write out the rules of respectful speech ten times. (You can choose another suitable consequence, of course.) · When teaching a child to speak with greater humility and respect, be patient! It can take many years for children to really integrate these speech patterns into their automatic behaviors. Consistency on the part of parents greatly speeds up the process and leads to an overall positive relationship. Moulana Shoayb
Posted on: Wed, 22 Oct 2014 07:05:00 +0000
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