During a seminar, a woman asked,” How do I know if I am with the right person?” The author then noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so he said, “It depends. Is that ur partner?” In all seriousness, she answered “How do u know?” Let me answer this question becos the chances are good that it’s weighing on ur mind replied the author. Here’s the answer. Every relationship has a cycle… In the beginning; u fall in love with your partner. U anticipate their calls, want their touch, and like their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love wasn’t hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. U didn’t have to DO anything. That’s why it’s called “falling” in love. People in love sometimes say, “I was swept of my feet.”Picture the expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something happened TO YOU. Falling in love is a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few months or yrs of being together, the euphoria of love fades. It’s a natural cycle of EVERY relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and ur spouse’s idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive u nuts. The symptoms of this stage vary with evry relationship; u will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when u were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage. At this point, u and/or ur partner might start asking, “Am I with the right person?” And as u reflect on the euphoria of the love u once had, u may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when relationships breakdown. The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person; it’s learning to love the person u found. People blame their partners for their unhappiness and look outside for fulfillment. Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is the most common. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside ur relationship. It lies within it. I’m not saying that u couldn’t fall in love with someone else. U could. And TEMPORARILY u’d feel better. But u’d be in the same situation a few yrs later. Becos (listen carefully to this): The key to succeeding in a Relationship is not finding the right person; it’s learning to love the Person u found. SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. U have to work on it day in and day out. It takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it demands WISDOM. u have to know WHAT TO DO to make it work. Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things u can do (with or without ur partner), Just as there are physical laws Of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. If u know how to apply these laws, the results are predictable. Love is therefore a “decision”. Not just a feeling. Remember this always: God determines who walks into ur life. It is up to u to decide who u let walk away, who u let stay & who u refuse to let GO! end quote.
Posted on: Thu, 27 Mar 2014 02:35:27 +0000
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