Easily offended by talk of mammary glands and body image? dont read further. Its interesting living as a fat girl, the standards we put on ourselves. One of the things I have always said is as long as my belly doesnt stick out further than my boobs, I am doing okay and I hate to admit that I have judged others by the same criteria. Today I was thinking about it and I am extremely lucky that I have big boobs, because I have this little pooch on my belly that sticks out more than anything else, and has been there as long as I can remember. This pooch got bigger when I was pregnant, and went back to its pre-pregnancy size about a year after having my daughter.. and I think if I didnt have the generous boobs I have, I would have been much harder on myself for my size. Its a bit of a two edged sword.. if you have big boobs and you dont wear fitted or tight fitting clothing, no matter how big or small, you always look bigger than you really are. I like to show off my assets while dressing to hide my flaws.. which can be a bit of a challenge as a plus sized sensory person living in the north. How silly is that? I mean really, why do I judge people for my own perceived flaws? Because I am human. We are always flinging about statements like dont judge me! and such, but the reality is that we judge everything, every day. (We judge the distance between our foot and the next object.. we judge how hot or cold something will be before we decide if it will be dangerous to grab it.. we judge how much effort it will be to walk to the store instead of drive.. judging is part of our daily lives.) I think what we need to do is stop focusing on what others think of us, and start focusing on what we think of ourselves. I think that we should also feel less free to express the negative, if we are not also expressing the positive. Or maybe, we should feel less free to express the negative in general because it sticks with us. I know, I am an idealist. I think that everyone should actually try to be nice to each other, regularly. Kindness is not only a feeling, but also a choice. So why cant I be kind to myself? If all I hear from myself is what I dont like, or think I need to fix, then that is all I focus on. If I also tell myself the things I like about myself, I find that I focus on those more. I like my boobs. I like my face. I like my butt. I like my hands, and what they can do. I like my heart, and my compassion. I like my perseverance and most of the time I also like my stubbornness. I like that I have an innate ability to see goodness and beauty in everything/one around me. What do you like about yourself?
Posted on: Sun, 18 May 2014 00:52:35 +0000
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