Encouragement for Today Untitled Document AUGUST 18, 2014 Raising the Kids We Have, Not the Kids We Were / JEN HATMAKER The Spirit of the Lord is on me, because he has anointed me to proclaim good news to the poor. He has sent me to proclaim freedom for the prisoners and recovery of sight for the blind, to set the oppressed free ... Luke 4:18 Surely Im not the only one who notices glaring differences between the kids we have and the kids we were. They are dreaming different dreams, thinking different thoughts, asking different questions. We zigged right where they zag left. Ideologies I swallowed whole without blinking give my kids pause, and Im often left going, Wha? My son Caleb recently initiated a lengthy discussion on missionaries. Nestled among the invaluable wisdom I certainly bestowed, I mentioned not all missionaries can freely worship God, and in fact, some even die for their faith. The next week Calebs teacher sent a hilarious email recounting the class discussion on future careers, and Caleb, ever eager, raised his hand and said: When I grow up, I want to be a missionary and tell people about God. Even though my mom told me that all missionaries get murdered. Like I tell all teachers: Lets believe half of what we hear about one another, mmmkay? My sons intense curiosity about missionaries is a sign we are on the fault line of a huge paradigm shift in our culture ... a transition from one worldview to another. Since this is the world our kids are experiencing, it is essential to any parenting discussion. We cant parent what we dont understand. Heres a boiled-down explanation. Modern thought was the driving worldview for the last three centuries, marked by rational linear thinking. The emphasis was on the individuals capabilities, logic and knowledge. This affected how the Christian life was interpreted: we proved our faith through factual research, organized around biblical knowledge or discipleship. Today, postmodern thought is the prevalent worldview. Postmodern values include spirituality, experience, community and the betterment of the world. This generation is highly skeptical of authority and wont believe or do something simply because of tradition. Because of this desire to better the world, postmoderns are wildly attracted to those who love the unlovely and the poor. Hence my sons questions. Guess who else loves the poor? Jesus. In fact, reaching the poor was one of His chief assignments: The Spirit of the Lord is on me, because he has anointed me to proclaim good news to the poor. He has sent me to proclaim freedom for the prisoners and recovery of sight for the blind, to set the oppressed free (Luke 4:18). If we want to show our children the Jesus theyll follow for life, then demonstrate love for broken, poor, marginalized people. As Ive tried to apply this knowledge to my parenting, I find my kids understand God better through story, community and justice, than apologetics or dogmatic theology. And Im discovering new opportunities to capitalize on certain postmodern ideals that line up beautifully with the Kingdom. Since postmodern kids respond best to authentic and honest parenting, its important to avoid any hint of a controlling, appearance-based approach. I must lead with my life, not just my lips. Lets tell our kids, Its okay to mess up. I dont expect you to be a perfect kid, as Im certainly not a perfect parent. With the Lords help we can create a house of grace. To model what to do with failure: to apologize, try again, try a different way, learn from it, and dont regret every mistake. Its not always easy for me to trust God is playing a crucial role in my kids lives. Im just one piece of their story. Thankfully, I can fail and make all sorts of mistakes, and God is still sovereign over all. But it is my role to teach my kids to love Jesus, not just a set of rules. To talk about His character, love, passion and heroics as much as I talk about biblical behaviors. I believe our kids will be less likely to get lost in culture if they have experienced the dynamic, loving, radical Jesus. When they know Him in a life-changing way, they learn to engage culture as a change agent and advocate without getting tainted by its influence. This is how God designed the Kingdom. He raises up disciples and releases them on the planet. Its easy to fear when our family colors outside the lines, wanders down unlikely roads or takes risks when everyone else takes the safe route. But if they love Jesus and contend for His glory, then they will hear one day, Well done, good and faithful servant. And you will, too.
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