Ever wonder why there are some people who can never seems to be happy? It is not the particular negative experiences we have gone through in the past that destroy our happiness, but rather our emotional reaction to those experiences carried in our memory. Many people suffer complete defeat without having really been defeated. Ernest Holmes If youve ever owned a dog, youll be familiar with this process. The dog does something messy, like chewing your shoe to bits, and you catch them in the act. What do you do? You start yelling at the dog, the dog gets very submissive, looks very guilty, and slinks off to hide somewhere while you clean up the mess. How long does it take the dog to get over the humiliation of being yelled at and kicked out of the house? Oh, perhaps 10 minutes at the most. How long does it take you to get over it? A day, a week, or are you still complaining about the day the dog ate your shoe 6 months later? We have a choice in these matters, and thats what our quote is telling us. When we choose to replay unpleasant experiences in memory, were choosing to be miserable. It doesnt matter is its the dog, your spouse, the kids, your boss or your grouchy mother-in-law. Its your choice to carry these memories around with you, and its your choice to be miserable. Why not make different choices? You deserve to be happy, so why do want to make your own life miserable by replaying unpleasant experiences or self-pity scenarios in your memory? Having negative memories is similar to carrying a ton of heavy burdens on your shoulders, and it will hamper you down from moving forward in your life. Time to let go and move on... Your Success is My Reward! Cheers :)
Posted on: Tue, 03 Dec 2013 09:31:20 +0000