FAN POST: Anonymous post please Words of encouragement needed, please. Our story: SO and I met at work a little over a year ago. For financial reasons he and bio mom did not file for divorce until 8 months ago. Instead he lived and worked in one town and she lived with the kids 3 hours away. He would drive the 3 hours every weekend to visit the kids. Right before they filed for divorce, bio mom insisted it would not be a huge ugly mess. She wanted the process to be as easy as possible for the kids. SO supported her in being a SAHM for 6 years, handing over his entire paycheck to her, even while they lived separate because she had the kids. He told her he would continue to allow her to live as she had while they were married until she got a job, as she has a masters degree and is capable of working. She agreed it would only take her a couple of months at worst to get a job. It appeared they would have a relatively civil divorce, until SO and I decided to move in together. We have lived together for 6 months now and his 2 precious children have not physically met me or left the county they reside in with bio mom for visitation. The divorce is still ongoing with no end in sight. SO currently has these ridiculous temporary visitation orders that bio mom and her attorney came up with. He gets them Saturday morning at 10a and has to have them home Sunday at 2p. He is not allowed to leave the county they live in and therefore they have to stay in a hotel every weekend and my son and I are not allowed to be there. Her attorney told So these orders would only last a couple of weeks and then he would have standard visitation. That of course was 7 1/2 months ago. SO is a wonderfully amazing man who loves his kids, my son, and me more than anything in the world. It hurts to see the light go from his eyes. We have the kids room all set up and ready for them with no idea of when well actually see them here in our home. He is so patient but a person can only take so much. Bio mom is a true witch. She gets more than double what an average person receives in child support yet she demands he pay for shoes, clothes, tennis lessons, etc. Then she goes and buys herself Tory birch everything. He tells her no and she calls him awful names and tells him hes a deadbeat father. She had managed to make every visitation awful. His youngest wouldnt even stay the night with him until a few visitations ago because bio mom would start crying in front of the little one and tell her how sad it makes her when she leaves. She even got the police involved one visit because shes terrified of SO. The kids told him daddy, we pray for you at night because mom said you need help and youre not a good person His attorney is working hard to end this mess but bio is ruthless and manipulative. She wants money and she wants SO to just walk away from his kids. The worst part is, we know we havent seen her real crazy yet. Once he finally gets standard visitation shes going to explode. She wants all control. Im praying so hard we get to see those babies for the holidays but as of now it isnt looking good.
Posted on: Wed, 20 Nov 2013 00:26:48 +0000
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