Fear and Truth.... Many times we wonder why our spouse cannot be honest with us even after we have caught him or her red handed.... One element we have refused to attend to in relationship/marriage is the spirit of Fear. Many husbands and wives have unconsciously turned their partner into a jelly fish; they have made their spouse to lose the joy of being honest to them due to the way they react after telling them something that is not good or after an accidental event that they committed. My ex husband used to tell me that Double trouble (that was my nickname/pet name from him to me lol), sorry I didnt tell you because I dont want you to be upset... That statement used to flare up bitter anger in me and all i wanted to do was strangle him or walk away from from the marriage, even when he was broke, he didnt have the heart to tell me that he was because of the fear I had indirectly instilled into the relationship despite all my believe that I am open minded, down to heart and caring. This morning my koko spirit made me to understand that I failed in that department that i refused to accept that I made my partner to fearful of sharing his thoughts with me when he didnt mean any harm. No matter how much love your spouse may be towards you, if you dont allow him or her to be free enough with you to share his or her thoughts no matter how bad, you will continue to be hearing lies upon lies, upon lies.... My koko spirit analysed it this way, in so many cases we dont always want our parents to know what has happened to us except good news because many of them may die immediately after hearing it. Why do you think that in Africa, Doctors would rather tell the men a bad news than women? because we indirectly live in constant fear, far away from reality. We want to know the truth but we cannot handle the truth. I saw a quote sometime away that says hurt me with the truth but never pamper me with lies.... That is a very powerful quote but it is missing out one vital fact, the mind that is going to hear that truth, how much incline is he or she to accepting the truth. Lack not acceptance of truth has made the truth to be bitter and that is why we always hear the old saying the truth is bitter. God did not make the truth to be bitter, he even told us that when we know the truth we shall be set free. Fear locks us up and keeps us away from knowing the truth. I broke up many relationships or didnt go through many relationships with some otherwise good guys because they were always telling me that they were scared thats why they didnt tell me one thing or the other. Yes I will argue you werent scared when you cheated on me, so why are you scared now?... The truth is, we need to have a very strong understanding attitude towards life, we need to stop acting like a saint and knowing that no one is beyond mistake.. Remember, 70x70 before you react or get angry? Its because when you get to know the reason for an action, your reaction will be sensible or should be sensible.... Quick to hear but slow to reply.... Abroad, a doctor will tell a dying patience when they think he or she may die (end of life/life expectancy) but in Africa, no doctor will say such because people are always in fear of the truth and will never accept what is outside their personal wishes..... Remove fear from your relationship/marriage if you want to know the truth always. ... Allow your spouse to be your friend, confidant and boo... Peace....
Posted on: Fri, 25 Jul 2014 07:15:36 +0000
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