Fellow friends delimma : I have a question that Id like to ask but cant have my name put out there. I could really use the input on what to do with summer vacation. This summer will be two years since my narc-ex has seen our 6 year old son. He only calls him on average about once a month, and most of the time its a 2 or 3 minute phone call because our son doesnt have much interest in talking to him (because he hasnt bothered to cultivate any type of father/son relationship). He skips out on his Christmas vacation visits, spring break visits, etc and then says its MY fault when in reality its because its HIS messed up priorities. Hes remarried and has a daughter, maybe 18 months old? He doesnt send our son pics of his half-sister or anything (I didnt even know his daughters name until almost 5 months after she was born). Thats just the tip of the iceberg when it comes to my narc-exs behavior. On top of all that our son has certain diet restrictions per his Ped Doctor and has ADHD (treating naturally), sensory issues, and anxiety issues. My ex has specifically said that hell follow the diet as he sees fit because he doesnt want his son to miss out on certain things in life. He doesnt miss out on anything and really thats my ex just not wanting to do something because hes a jackass. He also guilt trips our son on phone calls if our son doesnt have any interest in talking to his father. (People have been in the room and heard the conversation and ask me if thats how his father always talks to him because they were so taken back with my exs attitude towards our son). My sons behavioral therapist said she believes I have done everything that I can, I have gone out of my way without letting my ex have control of things in my life and she doesnt believe our son should be with my ex for 6 weeks this summer. With the lack of relationship, etc she is recommending 2 weeks at a time because going from nothing to 6 weeks isnt in the best interest of our child (my ex lives across the country and makes 75K so he could afford to break up his visit this summer to build a relationship with our son). She said if he has that big of an issue with it that he can take me back to court and she will testify to the things shes treating our son for, etc. She can also testify to my exs lack of interest because she has spoken to him over the phone. So what would you do- let your son go for 6 weeks (that is if eh even wants him for that long) or would you limit the visitation and break it up?
Posted on: Tue, 11 Mar 2014 11:48:44 +0000