Fighting the Green Eyed Monster:: They say that if you love someone, it is normal to get jealous when other people try to get close to that person you care about. Although it is closely associated with love, jealousy can be dangerous if it is entertained and tolerated in a relationship. There are many people who have learned to be open minded about their partner’s possible attraction to other people and vice versa. But there are still many who easily fall victim to the green-eyed monster named jealousy. It Happens:: Many times we regret the things we say and do after a fit of jealousy. Many times too we are forgiven because our partners love us. But it can come to a point when things are blown out of proportion and jealousy becomes a destructive force to your relationship. If you are the jealous type, you know that jealousy will happen again in the future. You also know that jealousy makes you irrational at times and this causes problems between you and your partner. Yes it happens but you have to be in control of this green-eyed monster, before it takes control over you. Why Are You There?:: The green-eyed monster or jealousy is the child of two things, insecurity and fear. When you fail to believe in yourself and when you think you are not good enough for your partner, then jealousy happens. You will always think that your mate is only with you until he or she finds someone better than you. This is not always the case, but in your head it is that way. Past experiences or even trauma in your childhood may have given you a fear of being dumped or being left alone. You accuse your partner of things you think he or she might be doing. You fail to realize that because of these fears, you are creating a problem that was not supposed to be there in the first place. Suspicions Suspicions:: Suspicions remain suspicions until you have proof. Never accuse your partner or assume that he or she is cheating unless you have solid proof of the infidelity. Trust is a vital part of any relationship. If you cannot trust the one you love, whom can you trust then? Whatever Happens:: Instead of throwing accusations or quarreling with your lover because of jealousy, try to reverse the situation. Whenever you feel that you are getting jealous, bring yourself closer to your lover. Pamper your lover and make him or her feel just how much your relationship means to you. Whatever happens, you can say that you’ve done your best to make the relationship work. Enemies to friends:: Lastly, if you are jealous of a co-worker or a friend of your lover, do not fight that person out of jealousy. Befriend this person and find out all the things about him or her. By getting to know the person and who he or she is involved with, it lessens the doubts you will feel about your lover cheating with this person. You know what they say “Keep your friends close and your enemies closer.” Remember, anger and hate are not the ways to keep your relationship strong. It is love, trust and understanding that will keep that green-eyed monster in control{Rtn.Saleem Ahmad Khan}
Posted on: Thu, 26 Sep 2013 04:06:04 +0000
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