For The Guys - Be The Mr. Right! Becoming Mr. Right is not all about showing your woman that you can satisfy her every need. You don’t have to break a bank to impress her. If she expects you to break the bank before you can get her or make her happy then she is not worth your time, effort and money. There are many good women out there. Leave her! It actually takes little things applied correctly to make most good women happy. Follow these strategies and you would never go wrong. Give Her Gifts Sparingly Giving gifts is a good way of showing your woman that you appreciate her, because that is what she really wants from you. When buying her gifts put some thought to it, don’t only give her gifts on her birthdays, Valentine’s Day and on other known holidays. Surprise her with a gift from time to time. Buy her things that she likes, it might just be something she mentioned that she likes during the course of your conversation. Something you feel would make her smile. It is not the cost of the gift that matters to her but the fact that you thought of her and that made you to buy something for her. It can be something as simple as her favorite flower, candy, chocolates, bath goodies or pricey gifts like jewelry. Something you are able to afford. Take the time to wrap the gift, and get a card. This seems silly; of course a gift is just as good if it isnt wrapped. However, giving a wrapped gift and a sentimental card will make her feel even more like a queen to you. You can even give her pampering gifts like manicure/pedicure gift certificate or massage products or give certificates. Let her know you are thinking of her give her something special not generic. Good Communication This is a very important tool in a relationship make out time to communicate with her, call her when you promise to call, call her when she does not expect you to call, send her romantic text messages and if you are a good writer, write romantic poems. Be attentive, listen to her don’t always do the talking learn to listen to her. Make the effort to sit down across from her after a long day to discuss work, friends and your relationship... Dont force the topic toward the relationship. Concentrate on her, do not only look at her focus on her: her eyes, her body language and her voice, let her know that she has your undivided attention. Notice when she is happy and when she is sad try to make her happy. Let her know at all times that you care her. Communication is how we get to know each other. The ability to listen is a great tool, and in case youre wondering, no, its not the same thing as hearing. If youre out on a date and getting your lady to open up is like pulling teeth, ask her about her interests and things you know shes passionate about. She might just need that little push to get going, and if talking about her passion for photography is what does the trick, just make sure youre all ears. By being an attentive listener, itll encourage her to open up and chat away, and shell gain your trust. And if you prove that youre listening, getting her to be quiet might become your next problem. Things to Keep in Mind When You’re on Dates Going out on dates is actually a must in every relationship, whether you have been married for fifty years or just starting. Our focus is really on the man that has just met a woman he is interested in and a man that has just indicated his interest in a woman he has known for some time. Though, a married man can still use any or all of these ideas to woo his wife because the wooing never really stops. When planning a date, men often think that there are certain things that they should and should not do. Women are individuals, though, and what turns one woman on may be very off-putting and aversive to another. By following a few simple guidelines, you can make sure that everything goes smoothly and happily for both of you. WARNING: If you are on a budget, decide on how much you want to spend and stick to it. Decide on an affordable activity and location, decide on affordable place to dine out or you can as well have a picnic in the middle of your living room, with a nice bottle of wine, candles and the music of your choice can even do the trick if you play the game well. Take her on a planned date, to dinner at a place where she has mentioned that she likes or on a surprise date to a good place you have tried and you think she would like. You can invite her over to your place for dinner or Sunday brunch; make it special by preparing something you think she would like or something she has mentioned that she likes. Take her to watch movies, if she likes movies. If she likes sports you can go and watch a sporting event together. Take her to the Olympics, just kidding; you can go on a drive together to a predetermined spot. Serenade her sometimes by singing a love song outside her window. Go to a coffee house and read poetry to each other. Call your local radio station and make a request for her favorite song or any love song to be played and make sure she is listening, by first sending a text message to her asking her to listen to the particular radio station at the said time. Enjoy the outdoors; picnic in your local park or at your local beach; host a candlelight dinner in your own backyard, patio or terrace, use the stars as your backdrop and candles to create intimacy. You can watch the sun go down or the moon come up together. You can also visit the Museum or National Park together It is exciting to try new things, but dont go too far outside of either of your comfort zones. It doesnt really matter how much money you spend, or how gallant you are. In the end, its a mans sensitivity and compatibility which really impresses a woman. Be Sensitive A little bit of generosity goes a long way. This doesnt necessarily mean monetary generosity. Perhaps your woman has been having financial problems, or perhaps shes been having difficulty with a relative or her boss. If you lend a compassionate ear, she will come away with a good impression of you and the date you had together. Listening is a skill many men have difficulty with, but it is one of the most important skills any man can possess. If her openness makes you feel uncomfortable, just nod and smile. Try to find areas where you have something in common. Chivalry Be considerate; always show kindness and courteousness towards her. Open the car door for her, offer to drive her (and drive safely, so as not to frighten her). Always pay for the first date. Be punctual when picking her up. Be kind to waiters and cab drivers Women appreciate a man who is respectful, as it says a lot about how he will treat her and whether or not he respects women in general. Some people find this practice outdated. Be awesome at anything; if you are smart, show it off, if you are funny, make her laugh, or if you are good at sports, give a demonstration. Let her know how you are different. Pay Compliments Pay attention to positive traits, features and character about her. It does not have to be complex, it may even be simply letting her know that you love the way she is dressed or her hair is styled. Tell her things like “You have such beautiful smile” State your compliments by looking her straight in the eye this emphasizes the sincerity of your compliments. Body compliments should be avoided in the initial stage of your interaction but compliment do compliment on her later and always in the relationship. Compliment her on her brains, jokes and talents and be very sincere! Final Words Never compromise your morals. If the person you are interested in is not interested in you, then you should move on. Some people are very polite and you may not realize immediately that they arent interested. But, given time, it should become apparent. In the meantime, take it slow, and even if you are head over heels, dont reveal this right away, at least until you are sure they are genuinely interested in you, too, or they could use your attraction to their benefit. Usually it is best to reveal ones feelings step by step, not much more nor much less than the other has revealed. However, people have very different ways for showing that they are or are not interested, so do not break up, or step it up, without talking things through as to where youre both headed. If you feel like you need time to decide, do not hesitate to talk. Never be forceful. If you ever pressure her to do something she doesnt feel comfortable doing, she wont be shy to say goodbye. Forcing her to do what she doesn’t want to do is rude. Try to continue doing your normal routine, with them in mind, rather than changing your whole life around them. Hopefully they will want to have a relationship with YOU, not a clone of themselves or a tag along. The most important thing in dating is to be conscious of your dates feelings and reactions. If shes a high-powered lawyer or a free-thinking intellectual, she may feel that your chivalry is an attempt to deprive her of her independence. However, if shes pleased at your holding the door for her, keep up the gallantry. A lot of guys choose women who are arm candy -- good-looking trophy girlfriends who bolster their status among other men or counteract their own insecurities. Thats all well and good, but if you find a woman who makes you happy, regardless of looks, age or social status -- or what any other guy thinks -- then you have definitely won at the mating game. CREDIT:Prophet Godspower Elishason
Posted on: Thu, 11 Sep 2014 19:49:24 +0000
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