From Peristalsis to Peristaltic Persuasion Continuing on the comments on the dynamics of love and relationships, here is a theory for some observed behaviours Mechanical explanation A peristaltic pump is used to pump essence fluid into a steam pipe , a hollow tube is run from a container of liquid essence through a rotating pump wheel, the hollow tube making a U shape as it wraps around the pump wheel. There are 2 further small wheels attached at 180 degree polar opposites on the main pump wheel . When the pump is switched on, the main wheel turns slowly which in turn rotates the small wheels on a compression action on the hollow tube so that at any given moment, one of the small wheels is making contact and squeezing the hollow tube as the large wheel rotates . This squeezing action creates a suction action from the essence vessel and therefore a pumping action into the steam pipe , so essence liquid is sucked from the container and pumped into the steam pipe whenever the pump is activated. Now at the initial activation of this process, the hollow tube is empty , so the pump has to work constantly for a short intense period of time so that fluid can be drawn up from container and pumped into the steam pipe , once this action is established , ie the tube is full of liquid , the circuit is completed etc, thereafter, only a slight turn or movement of pump wheel is required to deliver essence liquid. In short, the pump has to work hard and intently initially to set up the circuit of control of liquid from the container to the steam pipe , after which it hardly requires any energy to continue to make that liquid go where it wants it too. This action of repetitive indirect contact causing an intentional secondary action is referred to by science as peristalsis, the human bodies digestive system also uses peristalsis by activating muscular actions to move stuff through the digestive tubes. Relationships I have identified by analogical parallels that this type of activity (peristalsis) also occurs in human relationships via the dynamic of persuasion , all types of established human relatingships like lovers, friends family etc and can be used consciously or sub-consciously to control other peoples behaviour within certain limits . In the case of a new or established intimate relationship, when two people first make contact, they initially use a lot of energy up, getting to know each other , establishing certain knowledges about each others behaviours and motivations , likes and dislikes etc, this will be conscious and also sub-conscious as they memorise and record a judgemental idea of the person they are intimate with , then at some point they may settle into patterns of behaviour which may or may not be beneficial to both of them long term. In any relatingship, certain compromises sooner or later have to be made , but initially because of a certain mesmerisation of this love drug phenomena, it appears that both people enjoy doing everything together because they just enjoy being in each others company during the mesmerisation spell. They are actually enjoying what they are doing most of the time because of this ingredient of mesmerisation and so they may overlook the matter of fact of the healthiness or enjoyment factor of the dual-activity in itself. Im not making a judgement about how long this initial fever lasts , some for ages , others for a short spell, everyone is different and some people just enjoy each others company outside of the mesmerisation component. But in many instances, at some point , one or other of the partners will be either compromising to please the other or enforcing their will to the detriment of the other to please themselfs , but at the same time trying to hold together the healthy relating aspect It is in this area or stage of relating that the term peristaltic persuasion can be identified As partner A and B know “almost” everything about each others likes and dislikes , there is a constant juggling of sub-conscious power going on about who truly decides to do what when they are doing things , the dynamics of power are an interesting area, some people derive power from getting their own way directly , others derive power from getting their own way in what they perceive as through fair discussion and yet some others derive power from allowing another to get their way because that other seems to need to do so from an area of neediness etc so the sacrificial type are sort of playing a therapy role , then there are still others who have obvious developed direct streaks of sadism or masochism in their personalities This peristaltic persuasion can be seen to be active in 3 areas that I can think of at present 1.One partner or the other suggest what both partners might do , each of them knows what the other probably prefers, so one has to compromise more than the other when the choice is made ….or there might even be some perfect couples that enjoy doing things exactly but they in the minority I thinks, this balancing act of compromise is fine as long as it is balancing out over time, but one partner may be secretly fed up of the other partner and becomes less likely to compromise which leads to a change of dynamic in the relating, one person getting their own way more than the other, the other having to compromise more and more and so contempt slowly grows in the other too and sooner or later a meltdown occurs between them or worse, one person holds lots of repressed contempt against the other whilst carrying on in this unbalanced affair 2.The second area of activity is when partners have established habits of behaviour which after a period of time begins to irritate one of the partners whilst the other continues to champion that habit of behaviour even although they realise their partner does not like this experience anymore = further option for meltdown here if this is kept locked up in the psyche (: 3.In parent / children, boss / worker relationships , certain dynamics of control are set in place and then kept in place with peristaltic persuasion and it takes a lot of willpower to go up against the established conditions of expected behaviour. There are many more areas of relating in familys , parents and children , workplaces etc where this same activity of peristaltic persuasion is being utilised by someone even by the way they give their opinions to the other as in how they want the other person to do as they think they should , but dont really put it that straight in words using hints and emotional gestures to convey their needs or demands . Which is why this peristaltic persuasion could be and is a very useful tool used consciously by a person that wants to get their own way, but it is also used sub-consciously by many people in various relating states, and by the very recognition of this dynamic as put forth here, people can become more aware of how they behave and are behaved upon by others.
Posted on: Sun, 20 Jul 2014 20:13:20 +0000
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