God forbid that I keep quiet when I see things going the wrong way... Some few hours ago, I had a lil spat with a man of God (so called). I am still boiling but managing to write this. A well to do girlfriend of mine is preparing to get married soon (that is all the info about the lady I can give for now before some FBIs swing into action). Babe, please can you escort me to see my pastor? I skeptically oblige as me and pastors no dey kuku gel (meanwhile, I am on leave before some gbegboruns ask me if I am not working). We get to the pastors place, all the very looonnnnggg prayers done and then time for advise. Let me digress a little.... I am happy for my friend, especially her achievements in life but she knows I am not down with the guy she is preparing to get married to and I have expressed my fears to her. These are some of my reasons; 1- The bobo in question is a contractor without complimentary card (my nosy self wanted one and I was told by him that he doesnt need a complimentary card and thus doesnt have) and one wonders how he intends to sell his services. Maybe by mouth. 2- My friend has never been to the guys abode and I have never heard by mistake of an area where he resides. I basically see him at her place 24/7 since they started dating (which is about 4 months now) and in the times I have been at her place if it is not baby, can I get 10k, I need to do some runs, it is baby, can I use your car, I dont have transport and my friend will just laugh like someone that has been jazzed and attend to his requests with my lips painfully sealed. This love thing sef! 3- It is either the guy has memory problems or has truly attended four higher institutions. On several occasions when I have asked him the school he attended among other questions, it ranged from University of Lagos, Fed. Poly. Ede, University of Jos then Kaduna Polytechnic (I am presently making some findings at Kadpoly as that is my alma mata). 4- The only time (which I have seen) he gets amorous, is when he wants to ask her for anything for his use. In the above few wahalas that I have mentioned, my friend sees nothing wrong with them meanwhile na my body dey pepper me pass maybe because of the very many complaints I have received on relationship troubles from various people. Dear Lord, help me and most especially my friend. Back to the pastorial visit gist... The pastor was advising her on being a humble and dutiful wife. On how she should be loving and forgiving (I was nodding my head in agreement till...) You see everything you have belongs to your husband the moment you marry I was jarred back to mother earth upon hearing that one and I intruded excuse me, the guy I am sure you are aware is basically not doing anything and if you ask me you are encouraging laziness. And the pastor tells me that I do not understand the ways of the Lord. At this, I dusted my ass and excused myself from the that office. My friend meets me outside as I summoned enough courage not to leave her and go as we came together and she goes Babe I understand where you are coming from but that is a man of God, I shut her up immediately man of God or not, I hate to see you unconsciously digging your grave. I care about you and I wont be the one to stop you from marrying but all pointers are towards hell and you are joyfully jogging in that direction Suffice to say we has a very silent journey home. I make bold to say that marriage is not the ultimate. Most times we see the tell tale signs but we choose to ignore and then later start running up and down looking for one solution or the other. The society has honestly not been fair on women that we just have to keep taking shit. Most times the church contributes to the various problems that marriages have today. Guys, one thing you should know is that you garner enough respect when you are truly in charge and not waiting for one woman to make you. Tomorrow, you wont say any woman is disrespecting you. I used to think it was girls/ladies that used to plot the graph on seeking well to do men who will take care of them. Now, it seems the tide id turning. Please note, that there is nothing wrong in a man and woman growing together or even one helping the other but not under deceit as this my friends supposed to be husband. I am pained! Now, some people will say I am jealous. Egba mi oo!!!!
Posted on: Mon, 05 Jan 2015 15:12:12 +0000