Good night thoughts: What are your biggest fears? A question I ask most of the people I meet or get acquainted with. Yet, the main inquiry remains: “what is fear? In order for you to identify it, first you need to define it… right?” In the books, fear is defined as the following: “an unpleasant emotion caused by the threat of danger, pain, or harm” Science explains fear with more elaborate words and more “complex” terminologies only to make it sound fancy and unreachable to the “common human minds” stating: fear is the unpleasant emotional state consisting of psychological and psychophysiological responses to a real external threat or danger, including agitation, alertness, tension, and mobilization of the alarm reaction.” But why? Why do we fear things? Sometimes People? Other times our own gut feelings? Why are we scared of the dark? Of loneliness? Of love? Of tomorrow? Is it the unknown that we have no control over? Or is it the misconception of our superiority in this world which leaves us baffled when we finally end up realizing that we can be wounded, we can bleed, and we can die? How many times have you run into the arms of the ordinary fearing the extraordinary? How many times have you let your truest partner slip away scared you might lose them down the line and be scarred by their departure? How many times have you allowed fright to run your life, your career, your friendships, your body, your heart and soul simply because you never permitted chance to walk through your door? I have made all these mistakes. I have, and for far too long, caved in for my worst demons, my most horrendous nightmares, and most horrifying monsters. I have been enslaved by own thoughts, engulfed by personal matters, and reduced into a “fearful woman”… I have experienced the bitter taste of turning my back to every single person who could have carried me to safety, I have known what it feels like disregard those who genuinely cared, and I have shut my ears to the truest of compliments thinking that “I knew better”…. News flash! Scars will happen. Wounds will occur. Tears will be spilled. Our heart will ache. And the sooner we realize the inevitability that life has its own course of hardships and accept it, the sooner we will be at ease shutting those fears down… forever… I am not the best example who would tell you how to get over what scares you, what haunts you, what damages your own reflection in the mirror. But today, I could be the one who can tell you that the sea of possibilities and odds is vast, I believe in that, beyond human comprehension. I have been given a chance to step out of my not so comfortable comfort zone and walk under a light that is much brighter. My skin might burn, it might turn wretched along the line, but I have accepted the facts, the odds, and the possibilities. Why now? Maybe because the timing is right, the company is righteous, and the circumstances are at their best. Maybe because I have learned that staying in the dark is as productive as staying seven feet under; and maybe because time will never reverse itself and bring back missed opportunities. There is always dust on the less traveled roads, so get ready to pack your strongest of assists to go along the road you have always wanted to take. Chances, as I once said to my graduating students back in 2009, never come wrapped in a beautiful box with a note card stating “I am chance! Take me!” You have to be aware of the likelihoods thrown your way. You have to be in harmony with your inner voice. You need to listen to the echoing peace that comes from deep within. If you follow that voice, nothing will ever seem too scary for you… I promise… Fear can never take what you decide not to give..... Have a good night everyone
Posted on: Fri, 08 Aug 2014 17:49:35 +0000
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