Group Input Needed: please post ANONYMOUSLY. Thank you!! How does everyone deal with it when your child is sick but the dad is supposed to take them for his time? the dad is trying to take away our child and is gaslighting like crazy and was already upset and attacking me when I explained our child had a fever. Then the next day, when he was going to take our child, I told him our child was in bed and still had a fever. But he insisted he was picking our child up anyway. I wanted our child to stay at home because I didnt think they were up to going outside. The whole time I was getting them ready, I was inwardly upset that my child was having to leave the house not feeling well. But I understand the court system isnt healthy for the most part and from what Ive read, I understand dads get angry and say they can take care of a sick child just as well at their house and they make the child go anyway or the court looks badly at the mom for not letting the child go since the dad will twist it, and basically that is what our childs dad did....he got angry and said oh so now you arent going to let them come for visitation again?! I can take care of them sick, etc, etc. and I am just frozen in fear of him finding a way to have our child taken from me permanently. So now, I just got a text saying, and he has a fever of 100. I know that....I tried to explain it to him but he wouldnt listen to me! So now how do I respond to that text?? So that he doesnt twist things again and make me appear neglectful when I tried to explain our child had a fever and it might be best for them to stay home? Do I just say I explained that our child had a fever but you insisted on taking her? I feel sooo frustrated and upset....when does this get to become about our children and just simply focusing on being parents instead of dancing around a narcissist? He just ALWAYS finds a way to make me look like a bad parent! When I love our child and have their best interests in mind. It just doesnt fail....he constantly comes up with something. I understand how to be a good mom....Im not this horrible person he keeps making me out to be. Why cant I just simply be a mommy??? why cant he let me just be?! nothing I ever do is right. how do you guys cope with this? I just wish it was like talking to and communicating with a healthy person where everything you say is not twisted. I even had a friend come over to take my childs temperature and be a witness for my child being ill, since the father claims I make up my childs illness when it interferes with his visitation time. But after the father called, he texted intimidating things about how if I didnt let him take our child it would be held against me and I started getting so worried about losing my child longterm which would be horrible for them, etc.
Posted on: Mon, 20 Jan 2014 01:53:19 +0000
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