HOW CAN WE GET THEM TO UNDERSTAND?...... What often leads to a breakdown in relationship always stem from very little, sometimes insignificant but unavoidable issues. When little issues are not resolved they tend to grow so fast and like weeds and parasite they destroy the entire field. Communication facilitates quick understanding of the subject, issues and personalities. Every blissful relationship that has weathered the storm and has lasted for a long time owes it to effective communication among many others. Having a good relationship whether with a family member, spouse, fiancée, friends or co-worker, has to do with the choices you make on how you get your feelings, words, and point across to the other party. Lets look at some of the ways we can make the other person understand : 1) Choose your tone. Things said with the wrong tone will convey a wrong message . “By long forbearing is a prince persuaded, and a soft tongue breaketh the bone Proverbs25:15. “A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger” Proverbs 15:1. Avoid communicating when you are under negative emotion (like anger) because you might/most likely communicate a negative message to the other person. Spend some time to get yourself under control and under the Spirit. By taking a deep breath before you speak will help you to gather your thoughts. Avoid speaking before you think. 2) Choose your time. The Bible says, “A word fitly spoken and in due season is like apples of gold in settings of silver” Proverbs 25:11. It does not matter what you have to say or how important your point is, you need a good listener. Therefore you always have to wait for the right time to speak to your partner, friend, co worker etc so you can be heard. However you can create an atmosphere that will prepare the other person or put the other party in a listening mood. For example: -Learn to approach the subject always from love/care point of view and never from a selfish point of view. -Pray that God will grant the grace to listen and to open the heart “And a certain woman named Lydia, a seller of purple, of the city of Thyatira, which worshipped God, heard us: whose heart the Lord opened, that she attended unto the things which were spoken of Paul.” Acts 16:14. Usually love and care prepares the other person to listen, however some people will not listen until they reach rock bottom. 3) Choose your place. Not every place is conducive for some discussions. Some things are better said when you are dining together, on a beach, in a class room, taking a walk, on the bed etc. You need the right environment or setting. 4) Choose your words You have to know the kind of words to use to convey your feelings, thoughts and ideas to other parties. “A word fitly spoken is like apples of gold in pictures of silver.” Proverbs 25:11. Bible says “The preacher sought to find out acceptable words: and that which was written was upright, even words of truth” Ecclesiastes 12:10. We know the preacher is wise and he chooses acceptable words to get his message across. Wisdom instructs you to choose words that are acceptable to your listeners. However, before you communicate the first question you ask yourself even before you choose your words is ‘will my partner understand what I am saying”. Know your partners and let your words fit their personality. May the wisdom for effective communication be imparted into your spirit and your relationships in Christ Jesus Name.
Posted on: Fri, 04 Apr 2014 14:10:33 +0000
Trending Topics
Recently Viewed Topics
© 2015