HUSBAND SCARCITY...!! This obviously may not be the best time for me to write on this because of misinterpretations, but I can no longer resist the push... Husband Scarcity has become one of the challenges faced by many women today. If you go to prayer houses, majority of the intentions are prayer for a life partner. And this calls for concern. Cast your mind back to the time of our mothers and grandmothers, was there really much of a Husband Scarcity problem? Or, maybe there were more men than women then, or there was an adequate corresponding numbers of both genders. Maybe then, the women had values and were prepared to build a home and not park into an already made home. Then, once a young man comes of age and can at least feed himself and his wife, he goes out in search of a wife and the woman really appreciates him and helps him to build a future. What am I really trying to insinuate? Am saying that we actually created what we now see as Husband Scarcity for ourselves. Today, ask an average girl to define her dream husband; you will hear stuffs like..... he has to be tall, handsome, fair and rich, own a house at least, and be presentable and then she adds God fearing in order not to sound so worldly. Then, check the number of girls around you and the number of men that meet that standard, and you will see the problem. You must have heard girls say, I cannot suffer in my fathers house and then go and start suffering with a man. What if from the beginning of the marriage you had everything you ever wanted but later the table turns around, then comes suffering? Will you run away? My dear ladies....No one prays for suffering....it is good to start small and end big than start big and end small. The problem today is that the description majority of our ladies give of their ideal kind of man is virtually the same. If 50 ladies want the same kind of man and the man that fits what they want is just 1, and the man can only pick just one of them.....what then becomes of the other 49 ladies? The remaining 49 simply starts lamenting of Husband Scarcity!. Another irony of our time is the fragile state of our economy...Our harsh economy makes it practically impossible to find a man who is of marriage age that possesses all those qualities that most of our ladies yarns for legally (except for those involved in Internet fraud); even the number of those in Internet fraud business is not enough to match all those searching for already made husbands. If you look around, majority of the ladies of substance, of good value and virtue, who are ready to build a home with a man who has prospects are married and not complaining of husband scarcity. The easiest way to find a husband now is to change your view of who a husband is. A husband is that man God created to build a family with the support from the woman! MARRIAGE IS NOT A POVERTY ALLEVIATION PROGRAM.... It is a mission of building the family that will serve God here on earth. For those who see marriage as a way out of poverty.....it is a way into bondage. Women are HOME BUILDERS, not HOME WARMERS... DONT CONFUSE A MANS PATH WITH HIS DESTINY. Where he is today, may only be a route to where God has destined him to be tomorrow. Remember that you may only BE THE ONLY FAST MEANS TO THAT HIS DESTINATION. Join in alleviating husband scarcity. PICK UP THE RIGHT VALUES. I am not saying that you should pick up anyone that comes your way and talk of marriage...not all men are husband materials. What I am insinuating is that you should stop setting your standard on material acquisitions or physical appearances. Look metaphysical (beyond physical). WHAT MAKES A MAN WHO HE IS...... IS NOT WHAT HE OWNS OR HOW HE LOOKS, IT IS WHAT HE IS MADE UP OF. And that which he is made up of is most times not seen with the physical eyes but felt. Marriage is a permanent thing. Whatever is seen is temporal and that which is not seen is permanent. Relax and go to God in prayer.
Posted on: Wed, 21 Jan 2015 03:36:45 +0000
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