Happiness is Not an Inividual Matter (Quotes from Thich Nhat Hanh, 2001, p.55) This does not man that you have to hide your anger. You have to let the other person know that you are angry and that you suffer. Ths is very important. When you get angry with someone, please dont pretend that you are not angry. Dont pretend that you dont suffer. If the other person s dear to you, then you have to confess that you are angry, and that you suffer. Tell him or her in a cam way. In true love, there is no pride. You cannot pretend that you do not suffer. You cannot pretend that you are not angry. This kind of denial is based on pride. Angry? Me? Why should be angry? Im okay. But, in fact, you are not okay. You are in hell. Anger is burning you up, and you must tell your partner, your son, your daughter. Our tendency is to say, I dont need you to be happy! I can be on my own! This is a betrayal of our initial vow to share everything. In the beginning you told each other, I cannot live without you. My happiness depends on you. You made declarations like that. But when you are angry, you say the opposite: I dont need you! Dont come near me! Dont touch me! You prefer to go into your room and lock the door. You try your best that you dont need the other person. This is a very human, very ordinary tendency. But this is not wisdom. Happiness is not an individual matter. If one of you is not happy, it will be impossible for the other person to be happy. From Anger, Wisdom for Cooling the Flames by Thich Nhat Hanh (2001).
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