Have you ever wanted to develop your charismatic self? I certainly did. Although some people say its an unborn quality, the reality is that we can all learn how to widely increase our influence towards others. It IS possible, and its up to you to incorporate the charismatic traits! Here is a preview of my recent book Charisma NOW - Proven Strategies to Increase Your Influence & Become Insanely Charismatic in 10 Days or Less Enjoy it! amazon/Charisma-NOW-Strategies-Communication-Charismatic-ebook/dp/B00FXJIU1Y/ Chapter 8 – The 7 Habits of Highly Charismatic People In order to sum up the highest remarks of highly charismatic individuals, I’ve decided to construct a list with the habits you should incorporate to your life in order to take your influence to the next level. Aristotle said that we are what we repeatedly do. I think he was damn right. Habits build up our personalities, our character, and ultimately shape our entire lives. If you’re serious about your personal growth, you should pay close attention to the following list of habits. You should slowly and gradually incorporate each and every one into your life. Be aware that it will be almost impossible to integrate all of them at once. Don’t feel discouraged if you find yourself repeating old behaviors. Just keep pushing and you will be right on track. • Their priority is listening, not speaking Realize that if you want to become a highly charismatic individual, you won’t achieve it by talking. Charisma is perception, and therefore you need to work on that perception. You have to make your counterpart feel at ease when talking to you. You need to ask questions, maintaining eye contact and keeping an open body language. Why? Simple: because the other person has to feel important. Do not interrupt your counterpart, nor offer inadequate advice if you’re asked for it. Eliminate the need to boost your ego. It’s all about them, so shut up and start listening! • They dont feel the need to respond to everything thrown at them Though your priority is to make the other person feel important, you have to set some boundaries. Respect is earned by clearly defining what you will and won’t tolerate. If people perceive you respond to each and every word thrown at you, well, it is clear that you aren’t selective, are you? Neediness kills charisma. Whenever you sense someone is needy, you subtly feel the need to stay away from him. Neediness implies low value, and no one is wants to be around low value people. Praise extensively your counterpart for what you like about him/her, but keep boundaries. Make clear that you have standards. • They eliminate communication barriers In today’s fast changing world there are countless distractions that get in the way of proper communication. I’m talking about your phone. I’m talking about your Ipad, and even your watch, your tie, your shoes. Whenever you engage in a conversation, turn everything else off. At least for a moment. This is the only way to achieve a real connection with the other person. There is no greater gift than to give the other person your full attention. Don’t you think the will remember your eyes fully focused on theirs; your body fully engaged into the conversation? Of course they will. • They believe in Karma The highly charismatic individual knows that if he provides, he will eventually receive. Your must always focus on what you can offer to your counterpart in order to improve their life and boost their self esteem. Whenever you help another human being not only you will be making a good act, but also you will be setting the ground for future profits. If you make the other person feel important, you will open the Doors of Heaven. You can be damn sure that person will help you out to achieve your goals, eliminating any impeding barriers that lie within his grasp. As the phrase goes, “as ye show, so shall ye reap.” • They choose their words carefully Words create reality. You dont have to go to meeting; you get to share a few awesome moments with business partners. You dont sell stuff; you provide value that improves other people’s lives. You dont have to go to the gym; you get to work out and enhance your health and fitness. You don’t have to go on a diet; you are enthusiastic about starting a well-thought nutritional plan full of healthy food that will instantly increase your mood and energy levels! Do you see the difference? The words you choose ultimately shape your life. When it comes to relationships, make sure the worlds you use are highly energetic, colorful, and exciting. In addition, keep an eye on the terminology that your counterpart uses: the words that come out of his mouth are the key to understanding how he/she thinks, acts, and feels. You just have to include their words in your own speech and you will immediately create an atmosphere of joy and understanding. • They avoid negativity at all costs Don’t you ever think of discussing other people’s failures! Your job is to nurture people, not bring them down. I don’t care if it’s funny. Charismatic individuals see the best in people and praise it, trying to learn from every person they come across. Negativity can really affect your influence. People don’t like to be around negative individuals. And you already know why! It’s contagious. Negativity is contagious, and therefore it’s very dangerous. You don’t want people to feel depressed after talking to you, right? Exactly. Therefore, your main priority is to focus on optimism, positivity, and the creative power of the mind. When you do, you will be amazed by the results. Your enthusiasm and energy will spread all around you, and suddenly everyone will approach you with a smile! • They are ready to admit their failings It takes a great deal of confidence to admit your own shortcomings. It’s natural to feel ashamed for your deficiencies, but know what? Highly charismatic individuals actually inverse the equation. They transform their flaws into assets! They laugh at their deficiencies, and are thrilled to share with other people great stories surrounding past mistakes. They do the above for two main reasons. Firstly, because it takes an enormous amount confidence to share your past failures as if it meant nothing. Whenever you openly speak of your flaws you’re actually showing how confident you are. Your self esteem is not diminished by your flaws, but instead, it is boosted by them. This is exactly what other people sense, and therefore, what they believe about you! Secondly, sharing your shortcomings makes you look human. People feel good around honest, relaxed, sincere human beings. No one finds robots charming. Whenever you hide your flaws, and act as if you didn’t have any, you’re actually pushing people away from you! This is exactly the opposite of what we want. If you’re serious about developing your charismatic self, start laughing about your own pitfalls. Your will create a real connection with your counterpart, and your influence will skyrocket immediately! Above all, remember not to overdo this kind of strategies. Don’t begin a conversation with “Hey, wanna hear what I screwed up last week?” Please, don’t! You’re a highly successful human being, and as such you should act like one. Go ahead and laugh at your shortcomings, but don’t make a clown out of yourself. Get respected, build connections, and make people feel at ease while cherishing your own self esteem. When in doubt, just use your head and you will be right on track!
Posted on: Wed, 04 Dec 2013 18:30:54 +0000