Have you still not forgiven yourself? It is so sad when people living live with daily self-blame, guilt and anger at themselves over past events. As self-love is such an integral part of being happy, successful and having great relationships, how can our self-love be high when we are filled with self-contempt? (Especially when the anger toward ourselves is related to the past). What I do, and what I recommend to clients, is this: Try to look outside the box. Go back to a time when you did ‘the things’ you may not have forgiven yourself for. 1. Sit, close your eyes, and be in that emotional space…but not as the ‘old you’ then, as the ‘now you’. 2. Then look at yourself from the outside and FEEL empathy, feel a sense of understanding. 3. Understand that if you knew WHAT you know now, you would most likely NOT have done what you did then. 4. Love that person in the past. Stand beside that person. Tell that ‘old version of you’ how sorry you are for their suffering and actions, and that you understand and FORGIVE that old version of you. 5. You need to release all those old negative emotions inside you, and let them go (you may need to write these feelings down and rip them up, or work with a therapist if it is very traumatic). You cannot change the past; but you can FORGIVE the past…and by doing so, you will feel so much lighter! Your self-love is so vital for your life, as it impacts your confidence, your energy, motivation, parenting, and the way you love your world and others. When you love yourself more, your world will become better. One way to love yourself more, is to go back in time, and forgive yourself… another way is affirmations and cleaning out the subconscious, but I will write about that soon. Love Phoebe Hutchison Author / Counsellor areyoulistening
Posted on: Mon, 09 Jun 2014 07:00:00 +0000
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