Having been a victim of violent and systematic bullying as a young boy in the 1960s I can tell you that in some situations such as mine that violence can stop bullying. It can also restore self esteem and in my case once empowered with the knowledge that Bullys are generally cowards at heart I have been able to mostly avoid more violence, but not always. In my case I hated bullying so much for the rest of my life, I have intervened in and stopped Bullying situations many times, from schoolyard foolishness to wife beating. The 3 things that I have discovered that de-escalates bullying the most is 1. Not being afraid of physical or emotional confrontation or abuse. The appearance of being CONFIDENT AND FEARLESS will generally diffuse bullying; as Teddy Roosevelt said Speak softly, but carry a big stick. 2. They lose confidence without their support group, or in the presence of an authority figure 3. When the tables are turned and they are put on the defensive, they usually do not know how to react and then retreat. If none of these tactics work, one should be willing to go to any lengths short of killing the person to defend yourself. Make 100% sure you are in the right and never intentionally put yourself in a situation for a confrontation. If a confrontation occurs outside your control try to keep it in public with witnesses present. Then do your very best to take out every once of hate you have for every injustice you can think of in the world on the bully. When its over leave it alone, dont talk about it or let anyone pump you up. All you did was stand up for yourself, and there is no political correctness rule book for Bullies or for standing up for yourself.
Posted on: Wed, 21 Jan 2015 01:24:37 +0000
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