Here is my guide on how I found inner peace... #Enjoy! And I would just like to thank my friends who showed me great empathy, encouraged me, and who showed me the way... I just wish to make this transition simple for others, even my loved ones from sea to shining sea and across the universe. ***** How to Unleash Your Mind and Become Confident Would you like to feel relaxed and calm at all times, and unleash your mind from negative thoughts? Do you feel like you lack confidence in yourself, such as in your ability to trust people or make decisions in your best interest? Here is my seven step program to being perceived by everyone you come across as a total bad-ass of sorts: funny, sweet, wise, charismatic, outgoing, and extremely attractive (in every sense on the word) to be around! Essentially, a Free-Spirit who feels comfortable doing exactly what you want to do every day, from here on out! Now, if you have any problems using this guide, please feel free to call me at 785-806-8299. This guide is a work in progress. Note: if you are interested in a relationship with someone in particular (and I would strongly recommend only someone who is SINGLE, or perhaps your Ex-Spouse who is not currently married to someone else... just be careful not to hurt someone elses feelings as you find love), try to AVOID seeing them as much as possible while you are going through this spiritual experience of sorts: you will have to trust me on this one... I know from personal experience that you may very likely leave a bad impression with that person if you go after them like a bull in a china shop... I know I did. So, let that drive to see the person motivate you (at least in the meanwhile) to charge ahead and make a difference sooner than later! If you feel love from that person, this will be an easy transition... Of course, the goal of this therapy is for you to get to know yourself extremely well, and to feel comfortable taking care of yourself and loving *you* for who you are first. 1). So, to begin, please take the Big Five Personality Test here: [tinyurl/BigFiveTest]. Please keep your results as a baseline for your future progress, which may serve as a strong encouragement! 2). Now, AFTER you take the test, consider this: you will want to fully *maximize* the OCEA categories and fully *minimize* N. Why? Well, you will have to be the judge of that. :). But how do you know how to make that happen? Please look now at this webpage that further breaks down the aspects of each part of the Big Five Test: [tinyurl/BigFiveExplained]. If you see something that you dont find matches you perfectly in terms of OCEA, you will want to hunger and thirst to EMBODY that. However, a different strategy follows for how to minimize N (essentially overcoming and keeping it that way into the indefinite future). That was arguably the hardest part for me to overcome, but it may not necessarily be for you. So, go ahead and tackle that the other four as best as you can: volunteer in your community, strive to break out of your comfort zone a little at a time with friends you trust, and use your will-power to do everything you can to improve your personality and become a more confident person. 3. In order to minimize Neuroticism, you have to get to know yourself really well, and by that, I mean, you will want to examine your assumptions, beliefs, comparisons, desires, expectations and ideals... and watch how your potential mind traps play a part in your everyday life.... if you see someones feelings being hurt because of one or multiple mind traps, you will want to address it immediately, I think. So, here is a link that I think you will find very helpful: lonerwolf/6-mental-traps/. 4. Once you feel like you have mastered your personality traits, I hope that you are feeling... really good about yourself ;) It should be a liberating experience. Hopefully, you will also feel like these adjectives describe you: funny, intelligent and creative, educated, classy and cultured, indomitable, thoughtful, attentive, unpredictable yet predictable, enthusiastic, fun, happy, adventurous, passionate, confident, an emotional master, mysterious, charming, romantic and imaginative. So, all that is left to having a killer personality is: BODY LANGUAGE, PERSONAL APPEARANCE, and COMMUNICATION SKILLS. 5. Body language and Personal Appearance are crucial to understand because there is a lot that goes on with the body that you may not be aware of... signs of deception, interest, flirting, disinterest, etc. It will behoove you to learn about such things so that you know what kind of impression you are giving others at all times and can adapt accordingly. Because I learned from an expert, I will recommend his product... it cost me $300, but it was completely worth it to me to learn from this guy. kevinhogan/bodylanguage.htm His name is Kevin Hogan, and he is world-renowned for his research. So, I learned from the best ;) As far as personal appearance goes, though, my recommendation is this: make sure your clothes match, that you shower, that you drink plenty of water, and that whatever you wear... make sure its something that *you* want to wear, not what anybody else is making you wear. Because *your* opinion matters, and people should respect you enough to let you wear what you want to wear... as long as, hopefully, you wont offend anyone by wearing what you want to wear because it is considered extremely taboo ;) Also, if you are overweight, dont worry too much about that at this point: now that you have confidence in yourself, try to exercise by starting slowly if you need to: walk, bike, etc... eventually, you may be able to run pain-free like I did because your body will heal any inflammatory musculoskeletal conditions much quicker when you are not so stressed. And running vigorously for a few minutes each day (no more than 14 minutes), will take you far toward building muscle and shedding body fat *fast*. 6. Communication skills are also important to have, and at least be aware of. The book that I found very helpful to learning from is known as Power Phrases, which can be found here for about $10-17 from Amazon: amazon/Power-Phrases-Perfect-Words-Results/dp/1600378633/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1401001250&sr=8-1&keywords=power+phrases. I highly recommend this one because it taught me how to become more assertive AND that the most powerful form of communication is ... guess what? ... Silence. This is critical if you want someone who may be fairly neurotic to fall in love with you because... if you can get them to feel relaxed around you, then you are one step closer to winning their heart. ;) 7. Now that you have come this far, I would say: what do you want to do? Become a better singer? Learn to play an instrument? Your mind is free to choose whatever direction you want to go in: fly, be free! Just be careful and have fun! And, learning to sing may be *very* attractive to the person you want to meet, so I would encourage you to find music that is in your vocal range, and that you love (and that hopefully, they would find interesting, too), and just practice your heart out.
Posted on: Mon, 26 May 2014 09:42:12 +0000
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