Hey Guys- One evening as I was doing a seminar I asked people in the audience to list what comes to mind when they think of the word hate. The response I got was a list of bad things. -You should not feel it -I do it too easily -I feel guilty for feeling it -It comes from fear -I feel uncomfortable with hate -I am afraid to show it Such answers were pretty much what I expected, and they are probably typical of those most of us have when we think of hate. The concept of hating well seems like an oxymoron to most of us. We try to get over hatred because we have all seen the destruction that it causes. We usually think of hate as a problem to be solved. In reality, though, hate is one of the most important aspects of being human. It is one of the most critical ingredients of a good persons character. What we hate says a lot about who we are, what we value, what we care about. And how we hate says much about how we will succeed in love and life. First, lets consider why we say that what we hate is important. Basically, we are defined in part by what we love and what we hate. What we love says what we will invest in, go for, move towards, give time and resources to, and orient ourselves towards with the best parts of who we are. You can tell a lot about people by what they love. You think differently, for example, about someone who loves his family as opposed to someone who loves to win at all costs. What he loved gives you a window into his soul, and you know what to expect from him. Likewise, we can know a lot about people by what they hate. A person who hates hard work, for example, causes you to wonder. One one who hates weakness would likely cause you to keep up your guard. Hate gives us a window into peoples makeup in the same way that love does. What would you think, for example, about a person who said he hates the following things: evil, arrogance, lying, innocent people being hurt, harmful schemes, evil practices, telling lies about others, and things that stir up dissension among people? If a person said that he hated those things, and his life demonstrated the truth of his claims, would you be inclined to like that person? Even trust him? Wouldnt it be easy to depend on such a person? We cant have such negative connotations of hate. When we hear what someone hates, it tell us a lot about who he or she is. Cheers, Henry
Posted on: Fri, 24 Oct 2014 18:11:28 +0000
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