Hey Zane, Im a 33 year married female going on 7 years this July. Like all marriage there are ups and downs...we started off on the down side. Five months of being married, I found out he was cheating. I found this out the day I pushed his child out...smh. I was a great wife. I forgave but I didnt forget but after the fourth year of being married, and two more girlfriends later, I stopped caring. I stopped checking text messages, reoccurring phone numbers, asking what took so long, etc. I started working out and fixing myself up, not for him but for me. I didnt give my hubby his walking papers because outside of cheating, he is a good provider and father. He is now working hard for me to trust him again by spending more time with us as a family and more interactions with us. But I think, mentally for me, he is too late. I didnt stay for money, cause I am the bread winner, but I stayed for my children and their stability. Sixteen months ago, I met my current boyfriend. I new of him years ago, but we never acted on anything. I met him during his divorce. I helped him through it and in turn he helped me through my healing process. Now his divorce is final and some months have passed, he wants me as his instead of being my side chick as he puts it. He knows about my past history with my hubby but he knows things are getting better. He tells me he made me a better female for him not my hubby. He isnt the type to cause any problems for me and he isnt going to leave me. So how do I ease his side chick woes? I dont treat him like my hubby, I have gotten good at treating them as separate individuals. Im a good girlfriend, I spend a weekend out a month with him, we go on vacations, we even go on dates...so I give him time, alot of QT. I dont want to lose him because he balances me. Im a Libra, so I need all the help of staying balanced. Please advise me on what to do. Signed, I *heart* my MSC (Male Side Chick) MY RESPONSE: All I can say is good luck and happy trails. You are playing with fire and you will eventually get burnt. Weekends, dates and vacations? Girl, you better stop trying to worry about how to ease his side chick woes and worry about your husband finding out the truth. You made the decision to remain with him after he cheated but that does not give you free reign to do what you are doing. Your MSC has feelings for you and if you think females scorned are something, wait until the mess hits the fan with him. Eventually, if you do not leave your husband for him, he is going to make it happen regardless. People get killed over stuff like this. Be careful.
Posted on: Fri, 30 May 2014 20:21:14 +0000