Hi Miss Zane, I have been an avid reader of yours since I was 17(lol hormones and stuff) and I have so much respect for you as an author, a philanthropist, and a woman in general. I ADORE YOU!! I know you are a busy woman and you probably wont even read this email let alone respond but here goes. Well let me tell you about myself, I am a 21 year old mother of one, Im a full time mommy, law school student, fiancé, and career woman. I made a big mistake my freshman year of college and cheated on my then boyfriend with a world class bum and as a result of that I got pregnant. Now my child is my life but I hate that I got pregnant for the most ratchet man I ever met. They say women are sneaky and trap their baby daddies, well men try it too. I never let having my baby slow me down and eventually my fiancé and I worked things out and he stepped up to the plate and loves my child without reservation as if he is the father. My problem is her deadbeat biological father. He recently contacted me and asked me for my childs social security number so that he could add my baby to his food stamps! Yes you read that right, the man that does absolutely nothing for our child asked me if he could put my baby on the FOOD STAMPS!!!! I was so appalled that I dont even know how to respond! Usually its the women that put men in these type of situations but the tables are completely turned in this one. We live in separate states and he barely sees our baby at all(I allowed him to have a supervised weekend with him over the holidays and she came home with a staph infection!) My fiancé and family and friends believe that he is trying to carry her on his income taxes without my consent and I honestly believe those are his motives. The future lawyer in me is telling me to take legal action and fight for full legal custody but the mother in me is telling me to do let him put her on his government assistance because he might really be starving or something but I have never relied on the system for help and I am determined to never feed my child with another persons hard earned money. I would honestly be ashamed for my child to be in that type of system like she is needy and that peoples money would be wasted on a child that is probably more privileged than many of them. I would really like to know your opinion of the situation and your readers thoughts. Thank you for your time and I sincerely apologize for bothering you with this lengthy email and my blabbering! Sincerely, The Food Stamp Lady MY RESPONSE: Do not feel sorry for him. I would not give him her social security number for anything. Why would you even consider doing that and putting your child in the system? As a matter of fact, while not an expert, if he uses her social to get food stamps and it is later determined that none of it was benefitting the child, both of you might get locked up for fraud. I would not even take such a risk. He is not going to use that to feed your child and he is not doing anything to make sure she even eats. No brainer to me. I would not do it. In fact, I would not have had the time to email someone to ask because I would still be rolling on the floor laughing because he had the audacity to even go there.
Posted on: Fri, 17 Jan 2014 14:56:30 +0000
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