Hi dear FB friends!Good morning to everyone of you from this me here! This morning I shall chat with you about the importance of (a) over-talking and (b) our voice pitch in being viewed as an acceptable person in our progressive minded India! Please take my suggestions in a positive spirit and also please dont attribute any special egotism to yours truly for pointing out one of our rather nettlesome cultural traits-loud talking. In Merchant of Venice,the Bard of avon makes Bassanio say these eloquent lines about Gratianos speaking habit: Gratiano speaks an infinite deal of nothing,more than any man in Venice.His reasons are a s two grains of wheat hid in two bushels of chaff.You shall seek all the day long before you find them And when you have them they are not worth the search Many Indians have this habit of speaking in a most circumlocutory style that they have cultivated in themselves without ever being aware of how it irritates a listener either from an MNC or in an educated ambiance. A loud voice also irritates an interview panel! Personally I have always gone on to like soft voiced persons,male or female! A soft voice has a deeper impact on the listener than a loud voice that errs on the side of being noise signal!(Sorry for using acoustic terminology or jargon!) .In Brahmin weddings, its a custom for the married girl to go around wearing a small silver ring around one of her toes,usually a toe on the right foot.I used to be totally in the dark about why they were wearing this AFTER they got wedded.My erstwhile SO--her name began with an S just as mine did-explained that a Brahmin wife was not expected to produce any noise in the home except the silky swish or whoosh of this small ring touching the floor! I live in a neighbourhood hallmarked by ordinary people who dont know any PC.Nor do they have the least gumption about the social media like FB,Twitter,Posterous, Blogspot,Xanga or any other. But the one thing I have observed in all of them without gender difference is that they tend to talk in a loud voice even as part of socialization mores.I guess it must be lack of awareness of the real importance of a soft voice in getting a task done to ones satisfaction, in negotiating the expected price for fish or --even in ones persuasion of others,including husbands,wives or kids no matter their age! Of course I get along perfectly with all of these neighbours since I also belong to--and grew up till my 15th birthday in-- a sleepy village called Haripad, about 136 kms away from where I happen to be now! Online also ones habitual voice can be reflected faithfully without even one being fully aware of it .An harsh, strident and infuriated voice is a bad demoralizing comment about someone.A soft voice can be a greeting,a good wish or prayer! On FB also a soft voice--like an expression of sincere appreciation or praise- carries farther than a harsh voice--e.ga tart billingsgate comment or an observation made with hauteur--and I shall be happier to reach out to all of you so long as you cultivate in your own self this wonderful habit of expressing things in a positive mindset! Thank you a million times! Bless you all too!
Posted on: Fri, 25 Jul 2014 05:43:50 +0000
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