How many of us are guilty of one or more of these items? In my most recent quarterly performance evaluation of myself with several of my counsel, It was determined that I was most at fault with #3. Yes, it is true, I am not a micro-manager, but by the inverse standard could be guilty of not providing enough direction and support. And while the latter may apply to dependents or codependents, it does not to those of independents or of interdependency. What I, and as a firm, will often do instead is define clear boundaries, goals, objectives, inputs, outputs, feedback, and consequences. I/we demonstrate and extend trust to you with enough rope to hang yourself. Together, we are free to rise to the occasion without rigid regulations or religion ... to be better together as a team than as individuals. However, it was brought to my attention that an authoritarian leadership style emerges as a boot-camp drill sergeant when folks do not follow through on their commitments or communications break down. If this is true, I do not like this description of me. Yes, I admit that I have a tendency to tackle things head-on (albeit sometimes not so gracefully) to get things unstuck vs. reflecting or deflecting. It is not a pleasant side of my authentic self, but rather a stressed version of me that seeks to restore harmony and make peace. Sparks will fly ... and yet this is how iron sharpens iron. With a mature mindset, conflict can be healthy; resolving conflict even better for an even greater relationship. But, what makes us good, also makes us not so good in a manner of speaking if we lack maturity and an unhealthy attitude. Unfortunately, I often find that most have come seeking a relationship with our family office to take from it, vs. give to it. Most will lie, flatter, appease, and/or come across politically correct. And while these may be the methods of this world economy and relationship, they are all unhealthy indicators and motives of selfish gain, vanity, fear, greed, and/or deceit. Most will also give up, go away, and continue their dysfunctional quest for relationship. Bottom Line: We are not looking for followers. We are not organized to support followers. We do not want followers. And while many organizations have employees, we do not. We do not want employees. Instead, this family office is comprised of 100% volunteers; interdependent leaders as a supporting function to other leaders called-out. Which items, if any, apply to you? And more importantly, what are you doing about it? We can help.
Posted on: Mon, 29 Jul 2013 15:54:07 +0000
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