How to best share your emotions? Some people are aware of their feelings and easily express them. Others rarely speak of their emotions and are not easily prodded to do so. A union between an emotionally expressive mate and a non-expressive one may create frequent conflicts. How can these mates facilitate their differences to both of their satisfaction? Here are my suggestions: • Avoid criticizing your mate’s emotional style: “You never cry, I guess you don’t care”. There is no correct way to express feelings. • Accept your mate’s emotions as they are – it helps him/her confide in you. “I see how upsetting this is for you” should replace “Why are you getting so hysterical about small things?” • All feelings are valid and essential for emotional wellbeing. “How can you feel this way?” only extinguishes the forthcoming of future sharing. • Ask for nonverbal input of positive emotion from your partner, if you need it. “I would love a hug when I am upset.” • Express emotions in a modulated way – it will help your mate receive it better. • Ask for the response you desire: “I would like to hear you say that you are sorry about my stress when I voice it”. A loving request will help grant you your wish, help your mate know how to please you and assist both of you in managing your emotions better.
Posted on: Thu, 07 Aug 2014 21:49:24 +0000
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