How to manage aggressive husband: The first step is to detach: You need to teach yourself to be detached, able to see any behavior from your husband in an impersonal way, and to stop taking his faults personally, (like avoid seeing his dirty clothes on the floor as a personal affront, or a symbol of how he doesn’t care enough about you, or this image having an impact on your self-esteem, as a good wife.) In the next opportunity your husband is raising his voice, trashing things around and looking upset, you can try to say nothing, avoid eye contact, and keep doing what you are doing.It can take a lot of discipline to maintain your calm, but it helps to think that his mood is probably not related to you. There are several sources of his discomfort, and usually you are not his problem….and if he insists on telling you that you are the problem, is because he is nervous. If you don’t escalate the fight, and try to stay out of his way, he will calm down. Here are some extra ideas that you can consider: Every time you need to ask him about some changes needed, begin recollecting the good things done; Try to find a positive thing to comment on daily; Don’t you dare to mention his negative aspects without talking about how good the positive ones are, first. If the results are awful, you can always praise his good intention; Be very creative and find unexpected aspects to praise: a busy person that accomplishes everything could be praised for her constant smile, or his good disposition even along the busiest day; Don’t be mean, don’t link praise with immediate critique: “you did well, but forgot this part.” In this case, the “but” will cancel the praise. Apply this techniques for a while and you will see a change in the quality of your relationship, having more trust, and pleasure in the mutual company.
Posted on: Sat, 29 Nov 2014 10:57:53 +0000
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