How to talk to your daughter about her body, step one: Dont talk to your daughter about her body, except to teach her how it works. Dont say anything if shes lost weight. Dont say anything if shes gained weight. If you think your daughters body looks amazing, dont say that. Here are some things you can say instead: You look so healthy! is a great one. Or how about, Youre looking so strong. I can see how happy you are -- youre glowing. Better yet, compliment her on something that has nothing to do with her body. Dont comment on other womens bodies either. Nope. Not a single comment, not a nice one or a mean one. Teach her about kindness towards others, but also kindness towards yourself. Dont you dare talk about how much you hate your body in front of your daughter, or talk about your new diet. In fact, dont go on a diet in front of your daughter. Buy healthy food. Cook healthy meals. But dont say, Im not eating carbs right now. Your daughter should never think that carbs are evil, because shame over what you eat only leads to shame about yourself. Encourage your daughter to run because it makes her feel less stressed. Encourage your daughter to climb mountains because there is nowhere better to explore your spirituality than the peak of the universe. Encourage your daughter to surf, or rock climb, or mountain bike because it scares her and thats a good thing sometimes. Help your daughter love soccer or rowing or hockey because sports make her a better leader and a more confident woman. Explain that no matter how old you get, youll never stop needing good teamwork. Never make her play a sport she isnt absolutely in love with. Prove to your daughter that women dont need men to move their furniture. Teach your daughter how to cook kale. Teach your daughter how to bake chocolate cake made with six sticks of butter. Pass on your own moms recipe for Christmas morning coffee cake. Pass on your love of being outside. Maybe you and your daughter both have thick thighs or wide ribcages. Its easy to hate these non-size zero body parts. Dont. Tell your daughter that with her legs she can run a marathon if she wants to, and her ribcage is nothing but a carrying case for strong lungs. She can scream and she can sing and she can lift up the world, if she wants. Remind your daughter that the best thing she can do with her body is to use it to mobilize her beautiful soul. Sarah Koppelkam
Posted on: Wed, 06 Nov 2013 17:00:02 +0000
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