I am a student of relationships. I study my friends, I study celebrity couples, listen to couples therapists, read articles etc. What I have taken away is that once the honeymoon phase or the infatuation period ends, you will need tools to keep the friendship, love and intimacy alive. Both parties should posses these tools, when one and not the other is using the tools it seems to promotes frustration. Whats a soulmate? Someone who you do not need tools to be with? Someone you just click with and the relationship is just easy and doesnt take any work, just flows in essence? This, I am still researching; I want to know that answer. Most couples around me I believe are absolutely NOT soulmates, but rather victims of moving to fast on feelings of infatuation and casualties of the honeymoon phase non-clarity. Should one hold out awaiting a soulmate or should one nurture a good thing who does manage to make you feel special and use the tools to do the work that is needed to enjoy a long, loving fruitful partnership? Love Languages is a book that might prove a useful documentation of toolery helpful in the communicatory aspect of Love relationships, necessary to sustain longevity. Even deeper, once this understanding is reached, if there are children involved or planned on, they win more.
Posted on: Sun, 30 Mar 2014 20:26:12 +0000
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