I am so sorry the way I acted Loretta Garcia. Dont Be Afraid Of Silence... It doesnt mean hes not interested. It doesnt mean hes angry or upset. Sometimes - a man just has to pee. Sometimes - he just needs a moment to go inside himself. How Silence Can Bring Him Closer To You Have The Relationship You Want If youve ever felt miserably uncomfortable with a man when it got quiet - I know how you feel, and there isnt a woman on the planet who doesnt squirm and feel weird when things all of a sudden go silent. But it doesnt have to be awful. In fact - you can USE the silence to your advantage with a man - if you know HOW. My Love Scripts program is all about what NOT to say, what TO say, and exactly HOW to say it - so youre NEVER at a loss for the right words, and you quickly start to feel confident no matter what a man is doing or saying. Just go here to check out Love Scripts: Watch Now Sometimes he just doesnt have anything to say. What you do with that moment can be KEY to what happens next - especially to the amount of ATTRACTION he feels for you. Get More Emotionally Connected To Him: 1. Stop yourself from speaking automatically. This is the place most of us women get ourselves into trouble. At the first sign of silence, our hearts go into panic mode, we make up that hes withdrawing from us, we call the moment cold and we get fearful. We go into repair mode. We instinctively try to step into the gap. We instinctively want to fix whatevers wrong. We want to fill the silence, create something. And thats going to take you in the opposite direction from where you want to go. 2. Drop your attention from the situation and focus in on your body. Start with your breathing. Focus on your belly, just below your belly button, and put your hand on it. Now let your tummy relax right into your hand. Now, take a breath right into your tummy and let it expand into your hand. Now go to your shoulders. If theyre up high, close to your ears - consciously let them drop down, so you feel like our arms are just hanging off your shoulders. So - when he goes quiet, and youre just sitting there - heres what you can do to move the moment emotionally deeper and... (The soft hands Tool in Modern Siren is terrifically helpful for this.) 3. Find someplace to put your attention that feels useful. I personally love the cleaning out your purse Tool: Either clean it out or find something (lipstick, eye pencil, that you can USE to DO something with - Do NOT go into PHONE mode! Getting all caught up in your cell phone is the worst thing you can do - its what everyone does, and you want to NOT be EVERYONE. Dont go there because its easy, or because you feel compelled to check your texts and email. Another great thing to do is REALLY look out the window if youre in a car, look at the other people if youre in a restaurant, watch the screen if youre at a movie or watching tv. Eating is always a great thing to do - slowly. And eating healthy food helps tremendously - you could eat your way slowly through a bowl of popcorn, or kale chips, or a bag of salad, one leaf at a time. 4. Touch him. Gently put your hand under his butt if youre sitting in the car and youve been with him for awhile. If its a first date, turn to him, look at his face and smile (thats almost as good as touching...) After youve gotten comfortable with silence - thats when knowing the right WORDS to say can make all the difference. Thats why my Love Scripts program is so powerful. You dont have to stand there speechless with a man - you can actually SAY that you feel speechless! AND youll know what to say AFTER that - when HE says something BACK! The reason why Love Scripts works so well is that the scripting takes into account what HE says, and what HE does. In other words, in the program, youll learn how to RESPOND to whatever he says or does - and youll have the exact words (and body language, too) to DO it in a way that works, that has an immediate effect on him, that changes the relationship dynamic.
Posted on: Sat, 05 Jul 2014 14:16:21 +0000