I believe every single person would have experienced being bullied at some point of their life. I went through a terrible case of bullying too back in highschool. Flo was her nickname. I remember her ganging up with the other seniors, surrounded me and threatened to hit me. They would wait in a large group every day at the common area to repeat their bully ritual. Lies were spread. Someone (X) in that bully group finally discovered that the things she had said in that one year were untrue. X finally smiled and talked to me. It came as a big surprise that X actually said hi whilst I was walking back from school to the boarding hostel. I obviously didnt want to talk much to a bully eventhough Xs smile seemed sincere. What X said before we parted is something that I can never forget - Please dont tell Flo that I actually talked to you. I now know that whatever she said has been nothing but lies but I dont want any trouble. But of course. Why would X want to give up the connection with the headgirl, who had so many fans and supporters, over a person whom many considered to be an outcast or one who belonged to the underdogs group? Did X think itd have made a difference that X had actually started talking to the person whom they have collectively bullied for a year? Whenever news related to bullying comes to my attention, I cannot but relate to the victim in my mind. I understand how difficult it can be for bully victims to survive that phase of life especially when the bullying get out of hand. Everyones endurance level is different. It is sad to see that many bully cases have led to suicide. Look at this case for example, the bully victim was definitely more beautiful than her bullies. Look at the photos and see for yourselves. The bullies obviously did whatever they did out of jealousy and insecurity. Bullying experiences in the school premise always seems to be similar for every bully victim - the harsh words, the threats of abuse, the large gang against an individual, calling of names, spreading of lies.... Because of peer pressure, you will find some gang members, although know that it is wrong to bully, continue to do so because they want to remain with the influential group. They feel like superstars. This is utterly foolish. These type of people obviously have no sense of individuality and do not stand on their own ground. They have no sense of righteousness and obviously lack compassion. More does not mean better. More also does not mean stronger. A victim who survives his/her bully experience is probably a stronger person than all the bullies combined together. It is because of insecurity in the first place that the bullies resorted to such an inhumane practice. Look at this case. The bullies show no sign of remorse. Bullies have a superior ego and may not realise that whatever they did was wrong. Even if they were to go on in life and become so-called successful, they are unable to appreciate humanity in its fullest. If they are not taught a lesson, they carry their bullying habits to the university and their workplace. Somehow, what goes around must eventually come around. A lesson will be taught karmically. Why not start teaching your children that bullying is wrong! It is still a wonder why parents or teachers do not take bullying cases told to them by their children seriously. Little do parents know that bullying can take a toll on a childs confidence and cause psychological trauma in the long run. This can affect their life later or even now (which can result in suicide). Dear parents, please be more vigilant. Of course it is every parents hope that the child learns to be strong and stand up for him/herself. But please assess your childs situation properly before telling him/her to brave up or dismiss their pleas by saying we were bullied far worse than you are now! This is exactly what most parents would do. Maybe you were strong enough to endure your bullying experience, however your child may not be as strong as you. Every individual is different. With internet access these days, bullying has become far worse than it has been many years ago. In this way, technology may not be a friend at all. One rumour does not spread only within the school community. With Facebook and Twitter and all other social media websites, a single lie can spread to the whole world and you will see foolish people siding with the bullies to make it harder for the victim to cope with the peer pressure he/she is going through.
Posted on: Fri, 18 Oct 2013 20:29:23 +0000
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