I believe in an Ownership mindset, rather that a Shame + Fix mindset. If you are shaming and fixing it goes like this: I have all of these negative qualities, and all of these positive qualities, and I am either going to try and minimize/hide/transform the negative, and display the positive. If someone points out a negative quality, I feel shame about it, and try to fix it. An ownership model goes like this: Yes. Im messy. I own that. Yes. I get angry. I own that. Yes. I have a negative streak. I own that. Ownership means that you also have to own your effects on other people: so its not about being an insensitive asshole, although you can own that too, but it involves awareness and responsibility for the consequences of your choices on other human beings. Own that, too. Then its not and illusion about transforming yourself into some perfect human being. Its about awareness of who and what you are, so you can bring yourself fully into your actions. Anyone who believes they will one day eradicate all undesirable qualities is dreaming. Wake up into love, and consciousness of all that you are, and step completely into it. Thats true power.
Posted on: Sat, 02 Aug 2014 17:21:08 +0000