I consider myself a modern day mama. I adore my husband and my children, but I also really love ME. I love to work, create, think, and spend time developing myself. Sounds crazy, right? Develop... a word often used, most commonly when discussing cup size or the antiquated practice of processing film. de·vel·op dəˈveləp/verb 1.grow or cause to grow and become more mature, advanced, or elaborate. motion pictures developed into mass entertainment Synonyms:grow, expand, spread; More 2. Start to exist, experience, or possess. #thanksgoogle I didnt develop until after I was married. People would ask what I was into and I didnt have an answer, but I REALLY wanted one. Unless you had plans of being a lawyer or a doctor, you probably devoted countless hours to asking yourself what do I want to be when I grow up?. My suggestion... keep asking yourself. I am a married 32 year old mother of two and a small business owner (notice the order in which that was written). Money is fun, but it is not my motivation. I just want to look back on my life and know that I have taken it by storm. I will not be climbing Mt. Everest, but you might! Your personal development can be physical, spiritual, or ANYTHING you want it to be. Just KEEP GOING. Give life all youve got! Keep thinking, exercising, parenting, or creating, and if you still have time... do them all. But dont stop unless it is to take a deep breath and start right back at it. Life is a blessing, make yours purposeful. Dont comply with social norms but better yet serve yourself a heaping helping of pride and self worth. Being a spouse and/or a parent is either a role, a duty, or a calling. I have friends that fit into each category, although I am not quite sure which one I fall under. I LOVE my children with my whole heart, but I can most assuredly say that I am not the best mom on the block. My house tends to be a wreck, I dont have a signature dish and my kids arent always perfectly dressed (or to be honest, dressed at all!). I am happy and so are they. My husband loves me... He thinks I am funny and he is proud of my accomplishments. My kids love me, they want for nothing (probably not a good idea), and we spend a great deal of quality time together. In my daughters short life of two years, she has been to 2 zoos, 2 fairs, 2 performances, the aquarium, the farm, lots of trips to the beach, and a long weekend in the big city (ATL). Sounds like a lot to me, but I have friends that can get that done in a week. They are what I call BAMs... BAD ASS MOTHERS. I cant do it, I dont have the patience, the energy, or the drive to make life an adventure. There... I said it. Does this make me a bad mom? I am sure that some day my children will tell me that it did, and at some point I will blame myself if they go off track. But for now, I am being the best version of me and I am hopeful that they will appreciate it. Love God, yourself, your spouse, and your children---in that order. Sometimes they will fall out of order, but do your best to restructure them by importance. Loving your spouse and your children is natural but loving yourself is a necessity. Without you it will all fall apart. Take care of yourself. -gabby
Posted on: Mon, 27 Oct 2014 12:13:14 +0000
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