I do not support the over glorification of a womans ability to multitask and do it all. I see so many women refer to themselves as superwoman. I watch them carry the torch of Ill just do it myself and their stubborn insistence to be right instead of vulnerable ends them up into a pickle of resentment that is very hard to escape. I think superwoman is when a woman doesn’t know how to express her needs, wants and desires enough to ask for them. That, and she lacks the skill and tools to inspire, engage, and empower the people around her to positively contribute to the goals and aims of the group/team/family. That, or she lacks persistence to follow up and get others around her to meaningfully contribute. By trying to do it all herself she will disempower others who would benefit from having been able to contribute meaningfully to her. If the need to be “superhuman” comes at the cost of our own health or the intimacy of our marriages, or the self-confidence of the men and children we work to nurture and support, then resentment and exhaustion move in where strength and support could be instead. There is little nobility in chronic self-sacrifice when one is surrounded by able-bodies people who can support. You do no favours to let someone else get away with not doing their fair share. Far too many marriages, friendships, businesses and relationships have been lost simply because of a failure to communicate, follow up, persist, insist and get whats needed and wanted done. When the need to be right wins out over the courage to communicate with vulnerability or the willingness to persist with kindness, then in the silence of things left unsaid, a lot of beautiful partnerships fall apart. Communicate. Express yourself. Ask with kindness. Persist. If you dont get it, ask again. (Thats what persist means.) Never lose your willingness to express your needs, wants and desires. Doing so is actually more important than achieving the desire itself. Dont believe me? Try this week and lets see what happens. ;-) Love, T
Posted on: Sat, 25 Oct 2014 04:13:38 +0000
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