I dont know how loyalty has become so unspoken of in relationships, (and Im talking about the serious ones) last time I was getting so much negative feedback because I mentioned that I wasnt open to be friends with guys (the ones you hold an everyday conversation with) out of respect for my fiancé, even when he was just my boyfriend I had that respect for him. Matter of fact, thats WHEN the respect grew for him because I knew one day wed make greater steps and eventually he would become my husband some day. People made it seem as if I was locked up in an abandoned cave when in reality Im more than happy to say Im content with just having my man and God (in the end its only them who really hold it down anyways!) I know relationships are different in many ways and I respect that but humans are humans and they get attached quick! Im not down to risk someone getting attached to me while my heart is already taken, and a guy who truly knows respect understands that and accepts that instead of trying to talk to me behind my fiancés back or constantly asking me to hang out. Now some may say thats too strict and it may be but only for someone who isnt serious enough in their relationship, someone who isnt satisfied and is still out looking for more. My snapchat consists of girls only, I only text girls only, if a guy comes to me for advice and its something simple then I will give him that advice talking it with my fiancé first but then thats all, I will pray for him and if he needs further help that goes deeper I would suggest him to talk to another male because theres a certain line where male and females need to draw a line. If he claims not to have any true Godly friends then he just got lucky because I do, my fiancé! And if that person is serious about help then hell take that offer if not, then like I said, Ill be praying for him. Guy and girl friendships are just too risky without knowing the boundaries, now some Godly man/woman have discernment and they understand the boundaries but secular people, its very rare to which makes it harder to hold a pure friendship without them having other plans in mind. Im just saying, one day itll just be you and your spouse, and if you really take a current relationship serious you need to start figuring out what will be healthier for your marriage to have and start working on it now. Even if your single, know your boundaries, know what you want and dont want when that time comes so that when it comes this topic wont catch you off guard. This is my personal opinion on this topic and Im not saying I dont have any guy friends because I have some great Godly ones that have respected me enough to even be cool with my fiancé and become his friend too but I can say that I dont hold an every day conversation with any other male besides Efrain or that even when hes asleep and I cant sleep Im still not up talking to random guys who are online, I just pray and read my Bible once again before going to bed. I just brought this topic up because it really surprised me how so many people couldnt figure out why I did this things but I do and I couldnt be any happier because I get the same respect back from my fiancé! {and that keeps us drama free too!} ❤️
Posted on: Tue, 05 Aug 2014 15:22:18 +0000