I dont think being a gentleman has been forgotten or is a thing of the past. I know many gentlemen, who in fact have the qualities spoken in this article. It sets them apart from the rest & is easily noticeable in not only their speech, but more evidently in their actions, how they live each day, those they choose to surround themselves with & how they give & carry themselves. Just like I dont believe that being a gentlemen has been forgotten, although they are not as rare, being a lady has not been forgotten either. What intrigues me most about a gentleman, although he may not always be rich or stable in finances, he is rich in many other ways, wisdom is beauty. I admire a gentleman. See, my dad is one, and I have admired him my entire life, Ive looked up to him, Ive learned from him. I have watched my dad speak to & care for others. Ive watched him speak when it was needed but Ive also watched him refrain from such, because in some situations, silence is better than words. Ive watched him work hard, very hard & give just the same. Ive watched him mentor others & build them up. As a child I used to wake early when I heard my dad get up for work. Often on a snow day hed get up even earlier & shovel the driveway, clear off cars & heat them up for us all. I often sat in my window watching him outside in the cold. I wondered if he liked doing that or if he even wanted to. In my heart I knew, he was my dad, he loved us, and everyday when he gets up & does these things, its a choice, because he loves us & his actions show it. Even if he tells us 1000 times a day how much he loves us, everyday he demonstrates just how much, without complaining or arguing. What my dad has taught, shown & instilled in each of his daughters, no amount of money can buy. Its a matter of heart & character, of choices & decisions. Whether from time to time growing up we either struggled financially, had enough or more than enough, my dads actions, heart & character remained the same. He gave to others whether he had less, enough or more than enough. He didnt allow circumstances or struggles to change who he was but instead to strengthen him, grow his faith & to persevere. As well, growing up, my dad took each one of us girls on individual date nights of our choice. He treated each one of us girls like a lady. Hed talk about it all week to build our excitement. Wed dress up & hed greet us with flowers. Hed open the door & take us to dinner (didnt have to be fancy or expensive, he let us choose). Then wed go do a fun activity. I love the arcade & games & always admired the prizes. Id let my dad know which I really desired to win & wed play until there were enough tickets to get what I wanted. Although my dad didnt have boys to raise as gentlemen, he had girls he wanted to show how to be treated as a lady & how to be one. (No I dont mean always getting what we wanted) I recently had a friend ask, what do you look for in a man? I respond, a leader & gentleman. He asked, what does one look like to you? I simply responded with a photo of my dad, holding my daughter, pointing & showing her all different things outside. To me that picture speaks volumes. Being a gentleman or being a lady isnt a thing of the past, its a choice & decision. And its never to late to start. Maybe growing up you didnt have someone to demonstrate or show you. But look around, whomever it is you admire or most want to be like, ask yourself why them & then if possible, seek them out. Talk to them, sit with them, observe, ask, listen, & learn. This goes out to men & woman (not singling out one or the other- this article just sparked my thoughts & feelings)
Posted on: Sun, 30 Nov 2014 05:40:10 +0000
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