I get it, people can errk you and rub you the wrong way but lets looks at the bigger picture. How is your aversion to this person effecting your life, your health? Is your stress higher, sleep disturbed, are you moods variable, energy swooping? Is your irritation leaking into other non related company? Does this person really deserve to impact so many areas of your life? Mother Theresa said people may be unkind, selfish and have ulterior motives, be kind anyways. If you want to argue with Mother Theresa be my guest but Ill take that advice at face value. Were complex creatures and in such how well we play with each other is nuanced. Lets look at a few factors. Theres the proverbial god will keep giving us the same lessons over and over until we learn them. Does this scenario reappear in your life? Are you trying to bypass the lesson? To be less competitive, more accepting, more patient, whatever it is? Theres the philosophy that everyone does the best they can at the level of awareness theyre at. Is this persons level of awareness just low? Do you want to stoop down too? Not to reach too far, but what about empathy? Whats this persons back story, did they go through hell and theyre just climbing back? We all have a story. And finally, not to pin it on personal responsibility buuuut for the sake of thought, what about you reap what you sow. I think were all guilty of being overly pushy, judgmental or vexatious somewhere in time. Were human. We may need to devote a minute amount of time and energy to talking this irritation out, writing it down and getting it off our chest, but then what? Anyone whos been in sixth grade at some point gets the concept of cliques, bullies and gossip. At some point we get too old and hopefully too wise for this. Moving forward, I think its back to the fundamentals. Keep focusing your attention there. Dont let distractions rob you of what youre trying to create. For example, if my fundamentals are abundance, meaningful contribution and fulfillment and enriching relationships Ill keep my primary focus there. We are the co-creators of our lives. I think our thoughts are the interface between our god and our experience. Go back to the thoughts that help you thrive. Reaction and response whether it be retreat, release or retribution matter. I dont think revenge is retribution, its the perpetuation of a vicious cycle to nowhere. Break it. Dont entertain it...unless thats what you really want. I understand its real life. No amount of positive thought is going to delete this person or emotional ripple from your life but the options are worth exploring. Minimize your time and dealings with them, compartamemize the haste to that select time, vow to be kind anyways, be creative in how you frame the situation. One of my favorite quotes by Wayne Dyer is no one can offend you without your own consent. Some of the happiest people I know are so not because they have the most exceptional circumstances, outstanding relationships and never see a drowsy day. Theyre happy because they dont let other people steal thier happiness.
Posted on: Mon, 16 Jun 2014 13:02:48 +0000
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