I got this friend who always walks up to me and just starts spilling out all her problems. I just listen with no judgment even when shes awkward because i know I DO THAT TO PEOPLE. Mine may not be as awkward but need is need. Im probobly draining a FEW ppl. She asked me why we should continue to stay connected with people after being hurt and how you could do that feeling low. I looked at my own life. My best answer is this: This is how you start to beat fear of abandonment and low self esteem: 1. Decide to love yourself no matter what ugliness you come to know in yourself. The world is hard enough on us. Some people will leave you AND reject you for very good reasons but you should always be in your own ear cheering. Duh! 2. Understand that people are imperfect and no one person will be able to completely fulfill your voids but that is NOT your permission to be closed. Stay open. Be responsible for yourself and dont put the heavy on folks at the end of the day. You arent drowning because somebody falls short on loving you like you want to be loved in the moment. Sometimes thats impossible. But Thats what GOD is for. Believe 3. Tell the people in your life what you need and be open to help. Also know that everybody cant do everything. Im not expecting a baby to feed and burp ME. Or someone with no legs to get up and dance. Try not to miscategorize people 4.Try your best to understand your role and play it. Leave the rest to God and trust that at the end of the day, you good enough, imperfect and all #myBESTadvice
Posted on: Sat, 29 Mar 2014 23:37:01 +0000