I guess Im thinking about the right and wrong things we do, they do, and we both do in a relationship. This should be interesting to think about some more.... Okay, I know theres mixed ideas on the foundation of a relationship, but there shouldnt be really. Because there are two basic ingredients to building a strong foundation. You have your concrete blocks of trust and the mortar of honesty that holds them together. When youre honest, those blocks of trust continue to grow and surround you, forming a foundation that the mortar of honesty holds together. If you continue to do this, soon you have a solid foundation to which to build something even more substantial. But, if in the building stages of the foundation, you break that trust with dishonesty, you tear holes in the foundation. The holes in a foundation can be repaired, but can sometimes spring leaks stormy weather . So, building the strong foundation is of utmost importance. And, for the record, there is no such thing as a strong foundation without two people who are equally committed to building that foundation, because that foundation is going to have to hold a whole lot for the relationship. Good, bad, happy, sad, and all kinds of in between. Now you have a strong foundation of trust and honesty and all that those entail. Its time to build the shelter of love that will surround you and keep that love safe. Theres more to this one, but the rewards are worth it. Anything truly worth having is worth working to obtain. I guess its a given that faithfulness is key. Of course, you should never cheat. Thats part of the foundation. But, understand true faithfulness. When you choose a partner, they come before anyone else other than your children. Children should always come first. But, never forget that someone else needs your nurturing too. Its harder for parents, but if you can only steal a moment, then steal it for each other. For those without children, you have no excuse aside from work to not make sure your partner is your first love. Being faithful means putting them first. Its okay to make time for yourself, but never forget that the person who is there with you needs tending too. No one likes to feel neglected by their mate. And, if you put them first, you will never let them lose their place with you. This one is short, but just as important. Never keep a secret from them. It doesnt matter if its something small or major, you will not get away with it forever. The truth always comes out. And, you never need to take the chance in believing that youre getting away with something. Why would you, if you trust and respect the one you profess to love? They should be first to know. They have to know they matter to you. Never assume they know they matter, because that mindset could slip into months, then years, and then its too late. And, all there will be is regret. The smallest things in the world can let someone know how much they matter to you. Its the cheapest gift in the world when a relationship is real. Sometimes, its just the words you speak. Sometimes, its something you do just to see them smile. Sometimes, its seeing something that made you think of them and getting it to show them. Sometimes, its just letting them sleep in when you know theyre tired. Sometimes, its a note or a letter. Sometimes, its way more extravagant. The point is that you dont have to be rich or smart or the sweetest person in the world to show the person you love they matter. Just make sure you do. And, I always stand by surprising them at least once a week if possible. Again, it doesnt have to be something over the top, but surprise them with something sweet, or meaningful, or new and interesting. Never let it go stale. No matter how many years go by, always keep the relationship as important as it was when building the foundation. Once, youve built your foundation and shelter, the last but not least important thing was growing as you built the other two. The core or heart of the relationship was forming the entire time. And, how you built the other two determines how strong and healthy the heart of it is and will be in the future. It will beat between you as part of you both. It is always there to hold you together through every peak and valley. It sustains you. And, only a sustainable relationship is one to depend on and trust to not fail you. That is the kind you should have with the person you love. Just how I see it...
Posted on: Sat, 23 Nov 2013 07:16:55 +0000